I am married and have been for 22 years, does it get better?,?

I don't know if I should answer this question considering I've never been married but, I'll tell you my opinion. I think it gets harder never easy, getting married is like the dreamy feeling. When getting engaged your feelings are masked by all the overwhelming excitement, and you don't know what you will endure in your marriage but your happy to find out. Now staying married is another thing because there is so much more than what's visible, it's tuff working things out going through tons of problems but still staying true to your vows and spouse. I think you guys should keep pushing, being married 22 years is a blessing. You've made it this far so who is stopping you both on making it but yourselves. You may need a spark again to ignite why you are married or why you've gotton through what you have, go on first dates again, or even to a park and eat ice cream while reminiscing. I'm sure you know more about love than myself but I think it's worth more when you fought for so long.

You do realize that he feels the same way, right?

I mean, let's face it sweetie, back in his teenage days THIS was not what he thought of when he thought of spending his life with you.

It only gets better if you make it so.

I know, I know, psychobabble you read in magazines.

But in reality, you have been sailing through the last 22 years, expecting him to do all the heavy lifting.

You expected the Cinderella story and expect the Prince to provide it for you.

Sorry, but at 22 years together it is as much your responsibility as his.

You did not come with an owner's manual you know. You expect him to provide all the answers and you do not even know what YOU want.

You are not dating anymore. This is not the "fun party life" you thought it woudl be at 16.

You made choices and this is the life you got.

You want a different life then go for it, but you are not 16 any more and the world is a lot different than it was in 1993.

He has tried to live up to his end of the deal. Have you ?

that's as good as it gets. sounds like you're tired of your husband. time to divorce him. it's what every wife does, and much sooner than 22 years.