My husband thinks it is ok to call me a ***** when he gets mad about something. How would some of you handle this hatefulness.?

I personally would be ok with this, probably because I do the same when I get mad. The 'names' are ok (They don't mean much you just say them out of anger). But trying to say hurtful words,pointing out flaws or use words that he/she knows they would f*ck you up.. then no. That's not ok.

You handle it by leaving him. If you're not willing to do that, I guess you learn to tolerate it.

poke him with a broom that will soon shut him up and call him a bastard

stop being a "B" word