WOMEN ONLY, How important is your birthday?

Since your question is sexist I'm going to BE sexist in my answer.

Dude, don't try to reason with a woman. Women have no bone of logic in their body. If they BELIEVE they are right for doing something (like nagging you to stay home and spend time with them) then they are going to fight to death for that belief through a thing they call "PASSION".

Go to your event with your friends and tell her to stuff it. She'll be angry, but she won't have that power over you.

EDIT:

Oh, and to address the birthday. Our birthday is always important to us. Especially if she came from a Conservative family that only gave gifts on birthdays and Xmas. Make it up to her BEFORE you leave. Celebrate early.

Not at all important even though I'm 40 in a few weeks, 2nd May. Iv warned my family I want NO FUSS! I couldn't stand a surprise birthday party!

If you planned this trip years ago that would be fine.

But if not-

If you value your marriage at all you will stay with your wife on her birthday. It doesn't matter how chill she is, she will most likely get her feelings hurt and just not tell you. A birthday is a special day for that one person and its /their day/. Whether they like it or not, it's the courteous thing to do to stay with them and it shows you care even if they don't.

Normally, I don't care that much about my birthday as far as gifts or cards, but I do want him to remember it. Maybe take me out to dinner, or cook for me. But, planning a weekend with his friends specifically on my birthday weekend, would be very hurtful. I would never let him forget it.

Upset? Hum. I'd notice, maybe be surprised. Maybe not. I get my husband 90% of the time and wouldn't deny him a buddycat weekend. After all, I still get my birthday whether he's there with me or not!

I don't care about my birthday, I wish everyone would just forget about it. So no, I wouldn't mind if my spouse wanted to go away on my birthday.

It's not

is it was planned 6 months ago then you may have known it could have fallen on your birthday and asked them to change plans. Its not a huge deal to me, I would rather spend it with the people I love so maybe the weekend before or after you could celebrate.

if it was planned that long ago then id understand, but would want you to make it up to me big style

not that important