I'm very shy but i want to ask a boy out?

I am in the same situation, and I just wanted to warn you that if you plan it out, he might cancel or reschedule on you, then bail out because he is shy (or at least I think he is). The best way to ask him to hang out is to accidentally bump into him at school. Do you guys have any after school activities together? Tell him you're going to get something to eat, and if he wants to join he's more than welcome to come. Tell him you are studying for this class. Do you guys have friends in common? Ask them to hang out and then he will come as well. I think you first need to get him into a setting where there are others around just so that he's comfortable with you outside of school, then you can work on hanging out with him one-on-one. I am sure that he is into you a lot, and trust me when I say this, to follow your gut. If he says no, then it's okay. Let it go. Give him his space, and accept that he's maybe just shy or not ready for what you have to offer. Do not be disappointed, and just go with your gut. If it's meant to be (as cliche as it sounds), it will happen!

Sounds tricky since he's never alone. Text would be good if you've got his number, or facebook message if you don't. I've asked people out on facebook before and it was fine.

I think a good way to take the pressure off is not to think of it as 'asking him out'. You don't have to say 'will you go out with me?' or 'will you be my boyfriend?'. You just have to ask him to hang out some time. Ask him to a movie. That makes the whole thing easier for both of you.

You've got to strategize. If you want to write a note, brilliant! If you want to 'accidentally' bump into him and start a conversation about how much is on your mind (homework, chores etc) then wind up asking him out, excellent! Any idea you come up with is perfect because its you being you. Trust me, if he likes you, he'll simply appreciate it all. Its also important to plan it your way because even if things don't go as planned, you can't regret having been yourself!

Of course, if you can add some flair or/ humour to it that's great.

Thats so awesome that you want to ask him out! I'm shy too and I'm not sure if I would have the courage to do that (i wish). Well, if you want to do it in person maybe ask him right before a class starts or even better right after class gets out while everyone is walking out just be like "hey can I talk to you?" and then maybe it will be more one on one if you are walking to your next class. Another way is to ask him for his number first, maybe saying if you would like help on homework or an excuse like that. Then you can just text him or get to know him better first so you will feel more comfortable asking him out. Good luck :)

Dating is serious business. Why do you want to date him, for fun? You are at the crossroads of maturity at 16. So enjoy being that. If you want to go out with the opposite go in a group setting. This will give you a picture of how the other person reacts and treat people. In a few years from now your goals and feelings will change dramatically. So take time to enjoy life and get experience and develope emotional maturity. Sarah and I have been married for a long time. Best wishes and don't worry the man of your dreams is waiting and he will be the right one.

It does sound like rather a tricky situation. You have to keep in mind though the best way really be intimate with a guy is to be his friend. Try hanging out with him during lunch. The more you get to know him the easier it with get. A good conversation starter is always current class projects. Maybe you should even try and be his partner for one.

Yes you have butterflies, but they are only butterflies and really it's best to straight up ask him rather than wonder for the rest of your life. Even if it is in front of his friends. Whats the worst that could happen?

If he says no, trust me you'll get over him.

You could text him. I mean, that way if he says no, he won't see you feeling upset.

Another way is when you are with him, say that you are going to some event or place and would like him to come with you so you feel safe or something. Giving a guy to a chance to protect you and be your hero is a good strategy.

Giving a reason when you ask him out will be more persuasive.

This is easy. It takes a little of the fear out of it, but you'll still need SOME courage. Go with HUMOR.

(1) TO GET A DATE, WITHOUT HAVING TO ASK: Tell him you know someone that wants to go on a date with him. He'll want to know WHO. Take him by the hand to wherever there is a reflection and standing next to him say "Her" (pointing at your reflection)

(2) Don't ask for Date. Let him know where you'll be. Invite him to join you if he is not busy or wants too.

Example: I'm going for ice cream at (location), after school/practice. You can join me if (you're not busy) or (if you like ice cream) or (don't mind keeping me company) or (its a pretty good place to study).

If he declines... you have lost NOTHING. It was a suggestion with an open invitation.

Whenever you get NERVOUS, the best and easiest way to get rid of it is to tell the other person you are Nervous or that they make you nervous.

THIS IS MY STORY, It's a TRUE Story.

On my 1st Dates, with New Girls, I'd picked them up at their house. On the way to dinner there would be that awkward silence that increases the discomfort between guy and girl.

So I'd ask her "Are you nervous?"

She would say "Yes"

I'd say "Good."

She'd asked "Why is that good?"

I'd replied. "Because if you're nervous, then there is no need for me to be nervous. You can be nervous for the both of us. I'm just going to enjoy myself on this date."

She'd laughed and we'd start talking.

It was that easy to get rid of the Tension we created for ourselves.

Getting to know someone is an important part of socializing. The recommendation is to do something in a group the first few times. Grabbing something to eat, going to a movie etc. Then you can see if going on a date would be the next step. For further discussion please contact the Boys Town National Hotline at 1-800-448-3000.

To do that you will have to get to know him well .Get a mutual friend to introduce you to him .Since you are following certain classess with him arrange a combined study session or a revision discussion at which you can exchange notes or tutorials. This will give you an opportunity to get to know him better and he too will recgonize you better .Once you reach this stage you can make a very casual request for an outing or he himself will make the suggestion .You can even get your mutual friend to put accross the idea . During this period try to get friendly with his sister also. Be an active girl and avoid being too shy.