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Should I not talk to people when I am depressed?

Now, i know depressed people can be extremely annoying. I get depressed alot. What I used to do is I'd text someone and pour on the self pity until I'd feel better. But I was starting to wonder if my constant "wahh I'm thinking about suicide again" was just irritating. I personnaly get annoyed when people try to talk to me depressed, I only make it worse which makes me a huge hypocrite. Instead I now just cry alone in my room and think about suicide and the future. Not that I'll actually being attempting it again in the next few days, but things change. I just don't tell people about my problems anymore since they probably think its for attention or annoying or both. I want to cry and complain about how my life will be a faliure and I won't make it to my 30th birthday but everyone else in the world has it so much worse than I do so I feel guilty and continue being depressed. I don't know, should I talk to people? Its good to vent but it probably annoys the **** out of them. Would it be better to suffer in silence to spare the ears of others?

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    6 years ago

    I think it's ok to do this with your closest friends. Maybe just your best friend. With everyone else, it's a bad idea. I had to learn this the hard way recently too. I don't talk about suicide though. That's kind of selfish, in my opinion. I just sort of texted my friends telling them I'm depressed and asked if they wanted to hang out. In retrospect, even though that's a milder form of what you did, I still feel really guilty about it. But if you have to do it, my advice is to at least be funny about it. Tell some self-deprecating jokes. It will make you feel better too. I know it sounds like I'm criticizing you for being selfish, and I absolutely am. But I'm not at all judging you. I'm telling you what you need to hear because I've been there. And when your head clears up, you will realize how much of a selfish jerk you've been to your friends and you will hate yourself for it. So try to control your emotions until it passes, and it will pass. It always does. I think you know this. Doing this kind of thing is selfish wimpy and extremely immature. Is that the kind of person you want to be?

  • 6 years ago

    Threatening suicide guilts people into giving you attention when they might have other plans during that time. Try asking for a hug or a compliment instead of guilting. Or just have a nice conversation. It's very hard to feel the way that you do and I understand that. You might consider talking to a psychologist about your depression or focus on eating healthy, exercising and getting sleep. Meditation videos on YouTube are great as well. You need to learn ways to self-soothe so that you don't have to rely on others. Pets are a great option as well. :)

  • 6 years ago

    You may not want to bring others down, but you need to connect with someone to bring you back up. That's what mothers and friends are for, when you need a hug.

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