My wife doesn't give me presents for my birthday or Valentines.?

We have been together many years. Over the years I feel there has been less and less communication between us. The gift giving is a small thing, seemingly, but its lack is accompanied by her rarely thinking of me or doing anything special for me.

The other day we had an argument over something, can't remember what. However she said to me, "This last 18 years has been like living in hell." She wasn't really referring to me, but because I have been quite successful until I retired, she has failed at every business she has started. I have never complained about this, just been supportive.

She doesn't even get how saying that might hurt me. It makes me feel that I was never enough and that our relationship sucked.

Any words of wisdom or advice would be appreciated. I am feeling pretty low.