what are the normal feelings after death?

Sorry to hear about your close family member... and ...

The true meaning of human life is.... Self Realization....

Love /hate, Good/evil, happiness/sorrow, positive/ negative, virtue/sin, soul/ body, heaven /hell.. are the creations of God.... So, by pure faith in God we can understand our eternal nature... which relates to our soul as our soul is the Part and Parcel of.... Supreme Soul...."God"

Actually, we are spiritual souls but we are in human body. We are from the spiritual world. God has sent us on the earth...only for self realization.. as our souls are not as pure as, they have to be... So, God has given us human life where our body feels happiness as well as suffers pain. Therefore, we souls are here... to achieve... the level of purity and to become pure soul.... we should make an effort to understand the deeper meaning of unconditional love for all living beings.... in every situation... :)

Moreover, the eternal nature of our soul is to Love God...

Please read Bhagavad Gita deeply..... for every answer about the Human life and the Eternal Life...

http://vedabase.com/en/bg

Everyone handles death different it's ok that u didn't feel sad