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need advice about marriage break up!?

I have no idea what to do so please someone help me. i made some mistakes (talking to other women) so my wife kicked me out 5months ago. I hoped that we would get back together but she told me that there is no chance of that ever happening anymore which I understand but I love here more than anything and I'd rather die than not be with her so im left with two options either commit suicide which I am considering or is there still a chance she will love me again? should I keep trying to win here back? or should Is it a waste, should I just die?

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  • 6 years ago

    You should try to talk with her. Try arranging to see a marriage counselor together. Talk things out. Let her know that you are serious. Show her that she really matters to you. Trying asking help from her parents or close family member.

    SUICIDE is not an option. Everyday couples do breakup somewhere.. It doesn't mean your life is over. Think positively . Sit down and think why it happened and how you could prevent it in future. Reach out to your wife.. If she does not want to listen to you..Write a long letter. Rekindle on how you both fall in love and all the good times..Ask for forgiveness and tell her you deserve a second chance.

    If she does give you a chance, please talk with her.Communication is very important.. Respect her and give her some time to heal. The rest will be in your hand.

    However if all fails, remember there is a reason why it all happened. Move on and do not repeat your mistakes in future.

  • Anonymous
    5 years ago

    So you're a student - do you earn any money through a part time job, if you do then of course you should pay your share. If you don't earn aything then presumably your husband is keeping you and the house going on his pay - no wonder he is always broke, give the guy a break he is the one working why shouldn't he have some o his own money. As someone has previously stated marriage is a partnership. I seriously believe the guy needs someone who will pull their weight in family finances not someone who controls what others do and does not contribute anythin themselves.

  • ?
    Lv 7
    6 years ago

    Oh, geez. Pull yourself together, man. Suicide is a permanent solution to a TEMPORARY problem, and I guarantee you that the reason you're not over her yet is because you've been talking to her, begging, whining, apologizing, and she's probably been feeding into it by tolerating it. You need to delete her number NOW, no goodbye speech or anything, and ACCEPT that it's over. You made your choice, now she's made hers, and killing yourself won't solve anything. You have parents, right? Is your pain over your own screwup more important to you than making your mother cry over her son's grave? Grandparents, brothers, sisters, friends? There is SOMEONE out there that doesn't deserve to have to bury and grieve over you just because you're acting like a *****. And I'm sorry if that sounds harsh, but it's TRUE, and I know becuase I've been in that situation before. I felt like I didn't want to live anymore without a certain person. And I wanted to die, but I chose not to kill myself. And guess what happened??? I LIVED. I didn't die from a broken heart. I got over it. He's happily married now and I'm happy for him. I'm happily married too, and if I had checked out I'd have never met him or had this awesome life.

    So kick her out of your life, get those divorce papers signed and MOVE ON. I don't care how wonderful she is, if she were that wonderful you wouldn't have been talking to other women anyway and she's definitely not worth dying over.

  • .
    Lv 7
    6 years ago

    Talking isn't cheating, unless you were talking inappropriately. In that case, it was certainly a poor way to show your wife how much you love her. If you truly feel like you need to die without her, you'd have never done anyting to have betrayed her trust.

    If you can't fix your marriage, end the marriage and move on. Learn the lessons and don't behave that way in the future. Claiming you'll kill yourself is way over-dramatic and NO ONE on the planet is worth dying for. Get a grip. A therapist can help you, if needed.

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  • kim
    Lv 7
    6 years ago

    She is hurt and protecting herself. I would make an appointment with your Pastor and talk to him. Some women go as far as they can with a man and then leave. Ask her to start slowly with you again, having dinner and a walk. Tell her you are repenting before God and spending time with your Pastor. Do not expect to melt the ice of her hurt all at once and pray the scriptural rosary for your marriage daily sir.

  • 6 years ago

    I think you would do well to immediately haul yourself to a good, well respected, personal therapist. Not to be diagnosed, but to deal with and examine your suicidal tendencies and belief that your life is somehow hinged on anyone else's choices but your own, on anyone else's value of your life yet not your own. You are asking someone else to love you and want to spend their life with you while you are not valuing that in and of yourself. That is likely a point in other aspects of your marriage as well. Get working on that and you might find that your life improves a great deal and it could be easier for you to get what you want.

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