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Sex for my girlfriend is really painful?
Our first time was a couple months ago, we lost our virginity to each other. It was painful for her, but I'm pretty sure that's normal. The second time, it was painful still. And the third was also painful. The fourth time she couldn't even finish, I don't think she's allergic to condoms or anything, she just can't take the pain, she was so embarrassed and she was crying a lot. I don't know what it is but I want to know how to solve this problem. Anybody able to help?
3 Answers
- ?Lv 76 years ago
No, it's not normal for sex to hurt the first time or any other time - nor is it normal for you to continue having sex with her knowing that she is in pain, you REALLY need to think about why you're continuing when you know she's in pain: sex is supposed to be pleasurable for you both, if it hurts then you stop!
She shouldn't have to take the pain or feel embarrassed by it, nor should you continue having sex with her and putting her through this. As soon as she starts to feel uncomfortable you stop to address the problem, if you can't resolve the problem yourselves then she needs to see a doctor to find out what's happening.
As long as she is relaxed and fully aroused sex should not hurt - the vagina relaxes, lubricates, opens, and increases in size during sex so that if there is vaginal penetration the vaginal canal can accommodate it without damage or pain. Whereas if not fully aroused these changes don't occur so can cause pain or at very least will deny her pleasure as other changes won't occur either. If she is tense (for example if she believes sex will be painful, or if she can't trust her boyfriend to stop when he's hurting her) then vaginal muscles will tense so the vaginal canal will become narrower, thus penetration is forced and thus painful
The most likely cause of pain will be lack of arousal, but there may be other causes such as a low cervix, vaginal infections, or vaginismus. Whatever is happening you need to stop doing this to your girlfriend, it's not okay for you to continue causing her pain or let her get embarrassed thinking there's something wrong with her, it's also really worrying you were 'pretty sure' pain was normal as you should know better.
From OW! to WOW! Demystifying Painful Intercourse - http://www.scarleteen.com/article/pink/from_ow_to_...
- Anonymous6 years ago
How big is your penis? Could be its hitting her cervix if it's long. Mine is a small one and it's never caused any pain. Make sure you giver her enough foreplay!
