Help! I think my Bestfriend is using me?

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My Bestfriend Chloe and I took a trip flying to Arizona (my family paid for everything). We returned about a week ago and one of her ex friends told me Chloe was using me and was complaining about how I was getting on her nerves the whole trip and that Chloe didn't even like me at all. I thought she was lying because she was jealous. She then went on and brought up things about me that she would only know if Chloe had told her. Said girl answered and said even if she hates me she would look out for me because Chloe had used her before. HELP how do I address Chloe about this?

carolina · Accepted Answer

That sucks, damn. Drop hints and stuff, like let her know without actually flat out telling her. Unless you want to confront her, that is a bold move but will get u answers. I would say hang out with her or something, like at ur house watching TV or grabbing some lunch somewhere. Then be like "(second gives name) told me something, I'm just wondering if it's true" this might freak her out a little and she'll wonder what you heard. Hear her out and see what she says, she might probably ask what, then you could be like "everything" and see what she says. You could be like "I wanted to hear it form you first" this way it'll be all on the spot.

Christina · Answer

Since there's proof that Chloe WAS talking badly about you, you need to bear in mind that this probably wasn't the first time... or the last time it will happen. You need to be worrying less about how to talk to Chloe about this, and thinking more about whether or not you want this kind of catty, gossip girl in your life...

Regardless of whether or not you talk to Chloe about how she's made you feel, you will probably always wonder if she's talking about you behind your back...

You probably SHOULD confront her so that she knows her actions have consequences, but if I were you, I would probably confide less in her about personal/private things, and hang out with her less. You might need to start looking for new friends as well.

Melissa · Answer

Casually confront/ask what's going on and say that you heard some not so great things about her, and you're not sure whether you can trust or even be friends with her anymore

Anonymous · Answer

i dont know if you can address her as such. you may have to just learn a hard lesson about some people :( 
if you do talk to chloe you could say that you had wanted her to have a good time and if she didnt, then you'd appreciate her keeping her comments to herself. it may be better to avoid her if you can actually and not waste your precious life time on her!

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Help! I think my Bestfriend is using me?

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