Should I try talking to my ex-best friend again after 4 years?

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We had a really huge nasty argument over facebook that lasted weeks. We insulted each other in every way imaginable. We where such good friends and then for some reason we just drifted apart and started fighting. I'm now realizing that maybe it was my stupid fault. I want to be her friend again I have missed her so much over the years. We haven't talked in person since maybe a year before the fight. So in person it's been 5 years. Every time I even think of friending her on facebook I feel like throwing up I'm so afraid. What if she is still mad and hates me? I want to apologize and just be her friend again, but I know things might never be the same. And she got a lot of her others friends to hate me too. Should I do this or no? My life is falling apart and I can't go forward, I may as well go back right?

Update:

Please give me your thoughts on this or what you would do in this situation. Is this the right thing to do or should I forget it? I don't even know, I can't trust my instincts they're always wrong. Please help

Update 2:

We fought because of issues in our friendship, that's what started it the argument. And I said personal things and so did she, it feels so hard to talk to her again I feel so sick and sad when I think about it. :(

boystownhotline · Answer

Hello,

It sounds like you are really struggling with your relationship with this former friend of yours.  Things may seem overwhelming and hard to deal with, but there is help out there to work through your feelings about this.  It is good that you are reaching out to try to get some support and take care of yourself as you work through this.

Friendships that are stressful can affect you in many ways including making you angry, keeping you from sleep, and your mood overall. It can make you upset, sad, and even resemble feelings of grief at times.  It sounds like you are really upset about what happened with your friend a number of years ago.  You seem to be having good intentions to try to reconcile with her.  It may be good to reach out to her and just say “hello” to see if that is an option for the two of you.

Something else to think about is how you are taking care of yourself as you work through this possible reconciliation.  It is important to remind yourself to relax and try to do things that help you to manage these ill feelings you are having.  If you try doing something you enjoy, it could possibly help you calm down and relax about your feelings. Activities like working out, journaling, listening to music, or reading a book could help to take your mind off how you are feeling regarding the friendship reconciliation. Try to relax and take time to do those kinds of activities. Maybe that will help to distract you from how stressful it is!

Whatever you plan to do, please keep reaching out and take care!

TM, Counselor

kiko · Answer

Do it. C'mon. Do it

paint · Answer

dude....dont let some dumb social media ruin your friendship come on....just talk to her....tell me how it goe /.....good luck!

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