How do you know if your in an abusive relationship?

Abuse is what you are going through

Silent treatment is ;; emotional abuse

pushing and punching ;; is physical abuse

When he give you the silent treatment ;; stay away from him

and do not confront him during the time he is pouting

but after he is back to normal ;; ask him;; how did you feel all those days ? and wait for his answer

Try to research your region if their a center for battered woman

so if it get really bad ;; you can take refuge at a safe place

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49 yr of marriage

Now a days every relationship is abusive. Relationships effect emotions both positively and negatively but that doesn't mean that every time you husband makes you sad or angry that he is being emotionally abusive. Emotional abuse is more about when someone does things for the sole purpose of making the other person feel bad, and that doesn't sound like the case here. But in my book if there is a trend of physical violence in the relationship, its abusive. And when I say trend, I don't mean a couple of isolated incidents where no true malicious intent to injure occurred. A slap might even be a good example if it wasn't that hard and only a reaction of being taken to his breaking point, that rarely happens if ever. From the way it sounds, you likely were aware of these behaviors before you even married each other, so I don't have any sympathy for you. Another thing is that because you are so acutely aware of when he will hit, you have some control to avoid such situations from occurring.

But you are correct to point out your husband has poor anger management skills. But to his credit he is not bringing his anger to you when ever he feels it, and it only effects you when bring it to him. Thus you have two choices: Get him to get some help dealing with his anger issues, or just stop bringing anger to him and leave him alone when he is dealing with it on his own.

Girl... YES!!!! This guy is horrible. He's not hearing you when you talk to him. He should be striving to be a GOOD husband, not just "not as bad as his own dad"!!!!!

Oh my goodness!!!!!!

Don't listen to anyone else on here. If they justify him, they're idiots and need help. Get out, get out, get out, and find someone who is focusing on self improvement, not trying to just not be AS bad as a horrible influence in their life!!!!!! Oh my god!!!! That is just terrible!!

Get out. I say it again, get out. You deserve BETTER.

move on you have only one life,

so do u like what he is doing and how he is treating u? I guess not. that means he should stop and not do that anymore. how u call it is irrelevant. also I suggest when someone asks u once to shut up u do that. my mother won't shut up if she starts, i feel like my brains inside my head are going to explode from anger. I am not saying that pushing u is justified, but u should also direct some criticism to your direction. because I have that example with my mother if I start a nag and my husband tells me "please stop" I stop immediately and say "I am sorry, I did not realise", because I know how annoying nagging is. also if someone is mad at u u should leave that person alone and not try and touch or nag more

you just know omg

its abuse