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Why is he showing this kind of affection after ending friends with benifits?

So my best friend and I finally opened up about our feelings two months ago. Ive been madly in love with this kind for almost 2 years. Hes everything I wanted. When we opened up he told me he wanted something but not yet because he was working 2 summer jobs and he wanted to be sure he had time for me. We both agreed it wasnt our time for a relationship. I stayed at his house for 2 weeks while I was going through some family issues and we ended up having sex. I gave him oral a few times to(sadly i didnt recieve it back lol). What i found weird was he never kissed me, not on the lips, no where, and weve never made out. We slept together every night and cuddled and had pillow fights and we seemed really happy together. But once we were with out friends he acted as nothing more but a friend to me. Eventually, last week I told him what we were doing condradicts my self worth and that we need to be just friends. I could tell that his intentions for me were different than what he claimed them to be.I could tell he didnt want a relationship, and he just wanted to be friends with benifits. I agreed to being fwb with him only because im extremely attracted to him. Once I told him we need to stay friends he just said okay and didnt seem to be very effected by it. My friends and i came to his house for a little party the other night and i spent the night because i got locked out of my house. Everyone left at 5 am and him and i were sitting in the basement together watching spongebob.

Update:

I had to continue this on because i couldnt type any longer. Basically, he started throwing pillows at me so we started goofing around with one another and he was constantly coming off his couch to the one i was laying down at and would sit behind my head where I was laying. Eventually he asked me to cuddle and I gave in and said yea. when we were cuddling he started kissing my neck and my forehead a few times. It was affection ive never gotten before. and he started holding my hand

Update 2:

Hes never held my hand before either, our cuddling usually would turn out into something sexual in the past but this time all he did was hold me and show me the affection I like to recieve from a guy, rather than all the sexual things. I dont understand what hes trying to do right now. I dont know if he maybe realized he wants me or if hes just sneaking his way back in. How come he kissed me for the first time(even if it wasnt on the lips) and whyd he hold my hand the first time?I dont get it

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  • Anonymous
    6 years ago

    You can't just say let's be friends then sleep together then decide it isn't working because he only see you as a friend then once again want to be friends with benefits. Doesn't matter if it's a relationship or not that he wants because he's getting what he wants regardless. The best advice i can give you is step back. I get you're atttacted to him so you'll be anything he wants, even if it means degrading your self worth. But it isn't worth it for him to string you along like this. Take a step back and let him realize what he wants from you if anything. Distance yourself from him as a friend also. Or else you're gonna keep sleeping with him and then regretting it without getting any commitment im return.

  • 6 years ago

    Well isnt his reaction perfectly reasonable? Didnt you just tell the guy you no longer wanted to be thst intimate? Lol. Or were you expecting something to happen that night!

  • 6 years ago

    You stopped sucking his mr. happy, and he wants you to suck his mr. happy again. That's it, he doesn't like you at all. Stay away from him, you deserve better.

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