how do i ask my parents about seeing a grief counselor?

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my grandpa died 7 months ago from a sudden stroke.  my parents lied to me about it, saying that he was just sick and had to go get a checkup for his heart.  i stayed with my grandma (not his wife, this was my father's mother) that night, and she took me to school (i was in the 8th grade at the time, i am now a freshman) the next morning, where my father's step-mother texted my sister and i saying that she was sorry for the loss of my grandfather.  i didn't know that he had died, or that something had even happened.  my grandma (my deceased grandpa's wife) has been staying with us for the last 7 months since he passed, but moved out yesterday, and she gave me his hat that he got for being a veteran in the Korean war.  this hat was his pride and joy.  every time i see it, which is every time i walk into my bedroom, i break down and i am hit with a wave of anger and depression.  i can't go on living like this, but i just can't take it down.  how do i talk to my parents about seeing a grief counselor?

samiamrd · Answer

You say it just like you did above.  Your having difficult with this situation and would like to talk to a counselor.  It is possible that the school has one, or someone trained to deal with issues like this.  You could also see your guidance counselor and ask him if the school has a person who could help you through this.  The last option is only a potential option.  If your religious, some ministers are trained in counseling and may also be able to help you through this.  Some lay ministers are not trained in this, but some regular ministers are.  The regular ministers will have a degree in region which also means that they have had training in grief counseling.  So that could also be an option.  
As one who has been through this.  It is difficult to loose a loved one.  Just know that your parents were trying to shield you from this.  They are suppose to protect you, that is their job, but eventually children find out about this which hurts.  I am sorry for your loss, but just know that he is probably watching you right now and also protecting you like he did when he was here on earth.  This will get better in time.  You should not bottle up your grief, just give yourself time to be sad.  It is a part of the healing process.  In time you will remember the good things that your grandfather brought to your life, but take this time for your self.   Also try to focus on school, it will help you to get back to normal.  Good luck.

Natasha · Answer

You tell them you feel like you need to talk to one else or you talk to a school counselor and let them know and he or she will inform your family

? · Answer

talk to your school counselor and get them to talk to your parents for you.

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