My Husband?

Hi Mammee. already answered to this question but i wanted to answer it again..

It surprises me the kind of answers you have received! i don't agree with most of them! first of all, i totally understand why you felt disrespected by that woman... Now, probably your husband didn't say anything because he was feeling sick and weak and didn't want to make a scene...

Now,i don't understand those people who are telling you that you should speak spanish! does your husband speak irish? it's a well known fact that for adults is difficult to learn a foreign language, your husband might be a native spanish speaker but that doesn't mean he has to abilities to teach spanish.

Please don't be sad!

God bless you!

Have you ever thought your husband might appreciate communicating in his native language once in a while? Your husband was speaking to the woman, not you, if you felt left out that is your problem, not his or the maid's. Imagine if you lived in a Spanish-speaking country and you couldn't talk to anyone in your native tongue, not even your husband.

I, too, am surprised you haven't learned some Spanish. I certainly would want to, as I want to know what he was saying to other Spanish-speaking people. I would expect my husband to know my language, and I would be eager to understand his.

I speak a smattering of Spanish and French and I'm glad I do. It is much more comfortable speaking in my native language of English (actually, British -- I wish Americans would learn to speak English), but I can understand what people are saying (behind my back/about me) and I don't look like one of those ignorant self-important people who think everyone should learn my language.

I can understand why you feel slighted and left out, however if your husband natively speaks Spanish, he was getting the chance to converse with a stranger in Spanish, something he probably doesn't get to do very often.

We take it for granted that we can speak our native English pretty much anywhere and we will be understood. Native Spanish speakers, on the other hand, do not have that luxury, so this was quite a treat for your husband!

Yes, maybe it was out-of-place for the woman to tell you directly to learn to speak Spanish, but she probably didn't mean to sound rude.

Personally, I'm jealous. I wish I had a spouse that spoke a foreign language so I could learn a foreign language. :)

If your marriage is good and if your husband is Spanish native speaker, then you should strive more to learn Spanish, depending on the country you are living. You should not take it so tragic that the housekeeper woman is so talkative, even if it is not her business to ask you personal questions or give you advice. She has perhaps not much opportunity to talk Spanish and takes advantage of speaking it. Nevertheless, she should not. I would be jealous, but ultimately your husband married you and no Puerto Rican. If you can not trust your man, sending him to hell.

Sorry you're feeling this way. I can understand where you're coming from.

Have you brought this up to your husband? I think it is important that you communicate to him how all of this made you feel. How do you think he would respond?

Is this your 4th husband or are you asking the same question multiple times.

Oh calm down. You're really sensitive, aren't you?