What would you do if your bf/gf was being harassed by someone?

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Okay...so my gf is a sweet girl.The problem is that because of this guys tend to say things to her and she doesn't really say anything back.Guys will say very inappropriate things KNOWING that she has a boyfriend.These guys go to her school and I don't.She tells me about what happens and I am constantly asking her if I can handle it.I want to talk to these guys.I would never talk to them behind her back because I have too much respect to do that to her.She won't let me deal with it.She says,"I can handle it","don't worry".Today one guy hit her,hard but not really hard.I was furious.I honestly want to beat the crap out of him.She won't let me get involved with anything.She tells me to trust her.It drives me crazy.She takes a lot of pride in being independent but this is ridiculous to me.I'm her bf. I dont think I'm being unreasonable.This has been going on for a couple weeks and I feel like today was the last straw.I'm just so pissed.She gets mad at me for wanting to get involved...I should deal with this,right? Guys,what would you do? Girls, how do you feel about this whole thing.I'm just so fed up with people ******* with my girl...

Mike · Answer

You are being unreasonable.  You're telling her she isn't able to do anything and when you say she's independent, she'll start getting pissed at you for "COMING TO HER RESCUE."  She said she doesn't need the help and you're not respecting her decision-making when you talk about fighting these guys.

You have no right to jump in for her unless she asks.

If I were you, I would say, "I feel obligated to help and take care of business when you tell me these things happen.  If you're going to take care of them, do it, and don't tell me they're happening because you know how I feel."

If she keeps telling you what's going on and not asking for help, she's just venting.  It's okay.

I would let her deal with it.

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