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should i break up with my boyfriend?

so we broke up previously around christmas because he talking to a girl that he used to date and i told him that that i didnt want him talking to her so he said he would stop. ive been getting surgeries lately so he came by to visit and i went through his phone and i saw that he talked to her on facetime for 35 minutes the previous day. i told him that i wasnt gonna deal with the problem then because i had to focus on getting better. now im getting better and i dont know if should just end it or keep dating him. i just want an opinion :) thanks

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  • 5 years ago
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    Well it depends on how much you like him honestly. I don't know how old you are but what tends to happen is a guy starts off as a nice guy but then gets burned by a girl because girls like to play games around high school age. Then they become jerks and don't attach emotionally. That might be why he isn't really attached to you but with other girls. Also if you can talk to the girl about it also and see what's going on. Honestly though if he is going behind your back that usually means it's not good. I would end it if I were you.

  • Anonymous
    5 years ago

    The first time you break up with someone NEEDS to be the LAST time you break up with them.

    Breaking p with someone means you, or them, or the two or you, are NOT mature enough to make a relationship work. And it means that the two of you do NOT work as a couple.

    Before you broke up around Christmas, did you try to sit down and work it out as a couple? Or did you just have this rush of hurt that you couldn't handle and so you pushed him away? Or perhaps you were trying to hurt him so you could control him more.

    NONE of these are relationship-building behaviors. They wreck a relationship.

    NEVER break up unless you mean it.

    And if you mean it, stay broken up.

    Focus on getting better.

    Never date again.

    You have damaged his ability to trust and open up to you, by breaking up with him. You cannot recover this.

    Nor are you mature enough to make love work anyway.

    So spend the next year or so learning how to be whole and complete without someone else.

    And recover from your surgery. Hope this is the last one you have to endure.

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