I hate my autism and my mother for it?

My son has autism and life can be vary disparaging if you let it. You have to THINK POSITIVE and KEEP HAPPY THOUGHTS ONLY. The person's response about thinking positive is correct. I never learned this until a few years ago and stuggled with problems most of my life, nearly 50 years old now and am a single mom and love every minute of it. You have so much potential and a great mind don't blame everything & everyone else, decide to be happy and positive this minute and think about the girlfriend and being in the best loving relationship ever, think about how great it is that you have the job that you like and that helps you with extra cash, Live as though all of the things that you want are already in your life and soon you will have them and more. I recommend listening daily to Esther and Abraham Hicks on you tube. They can help you turn it around. It up to you to make it happen and you can. Be proud you have autism, you are a special and fantastic human being that is loved and blessed. Be the hero you are meant to be. There is no place for hate in a person that is filled with love, you radiate back to you what you give. You are what you think so be very careful of your thoughts.

If you have high functioning autism you should move to a group home where people on your level live. In my county they have small apartments (4 units) and each person has there own apartment. There is one worker who is there in the day, she has an office in the hall and her main job is to get the four adults to doctor appointments and if something goes wrong (like you need a plumber) she will set that up. Other than that you are on your on. They will help you find a job that you are capable of doing. I have met some of the guys that live in these apartments and they all loved showing me there on space and how they got to fix it up to their personal taste. They were all very happy and independent.

I have no idea what you are going through, and I won't pretend to. But please don't kill yourself. It's no one's fault that you have autism, have you ever tried talking to your family about how you feel? I'm no expert and I don't want to give you the wrong advice, but I found a site that may help you. It's called Autism speaks(I'll put the link down below), they specialize in helping people like you. I really hope you find the answers you're looking for, no one deserves to feel sad. I hope you receive the help you want even if it's not from me.

Good for you for reaching out. Please know that taking your life is never the answer. If you are having suicidal thoughts reach out for the support you need and let your counselor know that you are contemplating taking your life.

If at any point you are unable to keep yourself safe call 911 or go to the ER for immediate assistance. You may even want to contact a Crisis Hotline in your area and speak with a trained counselor.

Take care and know that you do not have to go through this alone.

Stay strong,

Counselor AH

Listen to Joseph Prince

I Hate My Autism

I completely understand. I also have hatred towards my parents. They both have mental illnesses, and they treat me like absolute ****. My mental health is defintely due to my parents. I hate being disabled and unable to even leave my house.

depression is a feeling

- our thoughts CREATE the feelings

- when you think negative, self defeating thoughts, then, you are going to feel depressed and defeated. Likewise, if you think positive, self affirming thoughts, they you will FEEL happier.

- this is the way feelings work, it is the ONLY way they work..

what this means is that no THING, or no PERSON can make us feel happy - happiness is an emotion, and it is created by our thoughts.. so, money can't make you happy. Better friends, more success, better grades, a fast car, a nice house, a life with no problems - NONE of this can make you happy.. only your thoughts make you feel happy.

- the good news is that what we think about every waking moment of the day is a CHOICE we make. We DECIDE what to think about.

- too many people just let their emotions run the show, and rule their lives, but that isn't how it is supposed to be! the mind is a TOOL that you are meant to use! You CAN control what you think about..

- negative thinking is a HABIT - habits can be changed!

- negative thoughts are like little brats that want all your attention, but you absolutely do not have to give it to them.

- thinking negative solves NOTHING, changes, NOTHING.. it is a complete and utter waste of your time and energy - in every situation.. there is NEVER a time where negative thinking is helpful.. never..

- if you want to FEEL happy, you must change how you THINK.. how you think about life, about yourself, about your problems etc.. change your thoughts, and you change your life..

How to change your mindset

step 1 - a negative thought comes to mind "my life sucks. I will never be happy"

step 2 - stop right there and reply "No. I refuse to think this way. This way of thinking serves no useful purpose. This way of thinking doesn't HELP or CHANGE anything. It is pointless, so I refuse to do it!

step 3 - CHANGE YOUR FOCUS to something positive and self affirming "Negative thoughts don't control me. I CONTROL ME! I decide what to think about.. sure, my life has problems, just like everyone else on the planet - but by setting goals, I can overcome those problems. I am capable of changing the way I think. I can LEARN from past mistakes. I CAN have a better life."

see how this works? First you recognize negative (useless) thoughts, then you shut them down, and replace them with positive self affirming SOLUTIONS..

When you have a problem "THINK MORE ABOUT THE BAD STUFF" solves nothing.

The solution is always going to be an action. "more thinking' keeps you stuck in a problem, and because you are 'indulging' those negative thoughts, you just feel worse and worse.. but action moves you forward, renews your energy and enthusiasm for life, it gives you hope to TRY.. so you must act, not get bogged down in thinking about the bad stuff..

Actions I recommend you take:

- read books on positive thinking (the library is full of these!) With each book you read you will learn new ways of thinking.. and overtime you will literally rewire your brain to be positive, instead of negative.. you will one day wake up and realize you are a different person!

- practice recognizing negative useless thoughts and replacing them with positive self affirming ones.. the more you practice the faster you will develop a more positive way of thinking

- set goals - and focus on those goals - not on your problems..

- start treating yourself as your own best friend. What this means is that you cannot put yourself down anymore.. no more name calling, no more bullying, no more insults etc.. the ego is a fragile thing - think of it as a little child that lives inside of you - when you put yourself down, the ego gets scared (of you!), this leads to self doubt, low self confidence, low self esteem.. but stop the abuse (because that is what it is) and you will feel better! Your ego relaxes and you start to gain confidence etc..

Let's look at an example of how this works:

You find yourself thinking, " I wish I was smarter" , now, I ask you, would you ever say to a good friend "gee, I wish you were smarter!" ??? No - instead you would encourage and support your friend, you would give him a little pep talk.. you would say something like "Hey, I like you just the way you are, and others like you too, but if you want to be smarter, then why not study lots of subjects and read more books?"

You see how this answer is positive, self affirming, goal oriented, solution driven? THIS is the way you want to talk to yourself ALWAYS.. if you screw up, LEARN from your mistakes, refuse to beat yourself up.. learn to accept that we are not perfect, and never will be.. we all make mistakes, we need to accept ourselves and others for being human/weak/foolish/irrational

Focusing on problems doesn't help. Neither does focusing on the past - in order to move forward you have to be looking to the future, and that means setting goals..

Don't give up - CHANGE the way you think..