Whas his problem?

My husband always treats my family like crap always talks bad about them and they are so nice to him. When it comes to his family I am so nice to them I smile socialize. So when it come to my family he gets mad when I wanna hang out with them not include him. I feel I have ever right to do so cause he always talks about them and starts trouble with them then gets mad when I wanna do thing separate. I'm I missing something. I'm pretty sure if I did the same to his family he would feel the same. What pisses me off so much is he gets all confused and wonders y I don't want him to come.IL explain more for example my sister dating a girl and he always say what a fag and he goes to my mother and tells her and she really strict about that and he try to start trouble. Another time he texts me ND tells me your mom's a loser that can't hold a man down and she is trash. Now that I explained some more what do u think