how to be alone?

This is not something that is going to come easily and that's perfectly normal and okay.

In ways it's kind of like a mourning process or getting over an addiction and considering the relationship was so long and you practically went from being a child to an adult in this relationship, you should not expect a miraculous recovery immediately.

As with everything, the best healer for these things really is time.

I think that in order to be alone you have to become okay with the idea of being alone and stop seeing it as a negative thing.

Instead, maybe start exploring all the positive aspects of being alone.

For example, maybe now you have more time to spend with your friends or family.

You have time to focus on your own needs, your own goals.

Maybe there is something you always wanted to try or learn or get involved in, now is a great time to focus your energy on that.

You now have the oportnity to grow as a person and begin an expedition of self-love, self- exploration and self-confidence.

It may be difficult to get going but start small. Focus on the smal things. It might be a nice idea to make a short list of mini goals every week that eventually accumulate into larger goals.

Maybe right now, learning to be alone is what is best for you. And you may not always be alone but don't worry about that too much for now.

The struggles you face today are what will mould you into the person you will be tomorrow.

This is obviously easier said than done and I am really sorry that you must be going through a tough time at the moment but know that it will not always be this way.

Good luck.

Well I've been alone for my entire life. I've tried getting into relationships, but since I'm such a shy guy,and kind of laid back.. I'm usually never AGGRESSIVE enough to get them to go out, and they usually tell me that "oh you'll find a girl" (and those are my crushes saying that to me lol) I have found a way to strive by just focusing on yourself. Find out what you want to do, and doing it. Hang with friends.. That is how I've been living so far.

Your opinion of yourself affects you in ways you may not even realize. If you don't like yourself you can be easily depressed, lonely, and even suicidal. So the answer is to do things to make you like yourself. Do things that make you proud to be you. One of the easiest ways to do this is to help others. Think about volunteering some free time at a senior center, homeless shelter, animal shelter, or somewhere else that needs help. When you help others in the way it makes you feel good about yourself, like you are not such a bad person after all. Another thing is, always be yourself. Don't act a certain way to be cool or what you perceive to be more attractive. The reason for this is eventually the "real you" will come out, and its better that people like you for you, not some fake person you pretend to be. You may also have heard the phrase "To thine own self be true". What this means is to not fool yourself by willfully not accepting the obvious. But I also think it means not to lie to yourself, accept yourself for who you are and try to always be a better person.

Once you like yourself you won't mind hanging out by yourself, you may actually grow to like it. The weird thing is, when you like yourself others tend to like you too. And why not, you are a really great person.