Am I the butt hole in this situation or is she?

Trying to make this short as possible, I was supposed to Skype video chat with my friend (is a she). During the day we were supposed to do it, I found out I'm being sued by Cox Communications. I was filled with so much anxiety I was dealing with that all day and forgot to contact her. Next day after the point I had to wait for returning phone calls, updates, ect. I decided to take my mind off things (attempting) and played some video games (I'm sure she seen me online). I knew she sent messages but during this time I was to depressed and angry nor was I acting rational to want to speak to anyone. The NEXT day (three days from the initial hang out skype day) I finally read all the messages I had from her and it was paragraphs and paragraphs of how much of a jerk I am. This is all fine and I don't blame her I should of contacted her except what really made me mad was she sicked her boy friend on me. Getting messages from him saying how dare I ditch her blah blah I better contact her or else. I'm upset because they didn't bother to ask for a explanation before acting. So I replied with a simple this "I apologize for not contact you sooner. I am being sued and wasn't in the right set of mind to talk to anyone at the time. I do not appreciate you having your boyfriend contacting me like he did. Again I am sorry but I want to be left alone". I got a simple response "your a *** hole".

Please answser honestly, am I such a d*ck? I feel like the worlds after me this weekend.

Thanks.