Is love really that important in marriage?

Do not ask me; ask your partner. Is your partner willing to stay in a loveless relationship that he is required to support financially. If he is OK with it and you are OK with it, OK

So then what's the point in marriage. What it really comes down to is do you both view it the same. Do you both feel the same way about it. Do you both not love each other but feel like you can provide for each other? If so then I guess you have the right to get married for that purpose. However you also said that he loves you but you don't love him therefore I don't think it's the right thing to do. Because his intentions are to marry you, love you and live his life with you not simply to provide for you. But like someone else here said, the thing you described sounds a little like love. If you don't love him but he loves you then I think it's time to end it before you get any deeper.

Well, as someone with 26 years of successful marriage under my belt, I will let you know that nothing except love is good enough reason for marriage. Being loved is a wonderful experience, but loving your partner is pure heaven. So, by simply allowing him to love you, you are depriving yourself of true happiness. Now, everyone knows that marriage is a really hard work most of the time with occasional sparks of happiness. Now, it takes love to carry you through that work, to do all kinds of things for your mate, to deal with people you can barely tolerate, simply because they are his friends / family etc. I personally would not do any of that for someone I did not love. You get to spend your life next to that one person: your worst, your ugliest along with your best. So, do yourself a favor and spend it with love for your mate. You will be a lot happier for it.

You should marry someone you love. I am married, and I love my husband. We recently celebrated our 41st anniversary. He loves you, but you don't love him. Do you think you would truly be happy? You may fall in love with someone else. It is true that many people fall in love and out of love. Many people have been married more than once. A good marriage would last a lifetime.

The most important factor in marriage is compatibility. Love ranks second.

Consider that love has different intensities and different speeds. Consider that arranged marriages work. Consider if you will tire of him and end up cheating on him.

Movie "Love Comes Softly". A classic on the topic.

That's kind of sad...yet... many times, love alone isn't enough. There has to be mutual care, trust, respect, morals and values...

What you are asking... it could work if you put that person first and give the due respect, trust, care and commitment it takes... you may even grow to love that person.

yeah love is pretty important in a marriage

Love is really that important in marriage. It is okay to marry someone that you know that you do not love simply because they are good to you and will work hard to provide for you and keep you happy.

You can be in love, in like or in lust. Love is best. Like may not last. Lust lasts about two weeks.

I have known only one woman who married a man she did not love simply because he was a nice guy and would be good to her. She was satisfied with that.

Well if you want to marry him because he is good to you..then just understand that don't cheat on him..or divorce later..I don't know but people seem too immature when they get into relationships...its just the initial attraction and sex they want..and then they say it faded away...like every relationship marriage also has its up and down...you fight..you get mad ..but you make up and love each other...good luck..dont just marry him if you think you are gonna leave him later..

If you and your potential spouse are okay marrying for reasons other than love, that's fine (originally, most marriages were that way). A fair number of couples marry for reasons other than love, but for many love is part of, if not the primary reason they marry.

It's not okay to marry someone you know who loves you, but whom you do not love. That's unfair to them. It would also be unwise to marry someone you loved, but who you knew didn't love you. You'd never truly be happy in that marriage.