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How do I bring back my girlfriend's sex drive?
So I've been going out with this amazing girl for 4 months now, and everything has gone great for the most part. To give some background, I lost my virginity to her within the first month and we were basically like rabbits during that month. It actually got to the point where I couldn't even catch up to her! Then we had a pregnancy scare about a week after Valentine's day, which slowed things down but we were still having sex about 2-3 times a week. I thought things would return to normal after her period, which came, but it didn't. She went to the mental institution for about a week (she has depression, anxiety and has hallucinations), and wasn't allowed to take birth control. She got out and was what I could only consider a "nymph." At this point, I knew I couldn't keep up with her. I thought that her sex drive would decrease dramatically once the birth control took effect again, but it went from her wanting it 3 times a day to once a day, which matches mine perfectly.
Then her birth control ran out and insurance only paid her to receive the medication about a week later.
However, the doctor said that we would be fine, so we continued having intercourse like we usually did until her next doctors appointment, in which we discovered from her doctor that we should've been using condoms.
She, of course, freaked out again, and sex has since decreased to 1-3 times a week again.
She took a pregnancy test and had her period, so at this point, we were relieved to discover that she wasn't pregnant.
However, her sex drive didn't return. We had this discussion a few times, had the doctor tell us the effectiveness of the pill and as it turns out, her fear of pregnancy has gone from a high point back down to average.
I am very much in love with her and enjoy doing all sorts of things with her, but I would like to start having a lot of sex again (as selfish as this sounds).
Oh, to give some background, she has also been fairly tired recently, and her medication makes her more tired. She's been sleeping for about 10-12 hours a day.
We've also been seeing each other every day since....about a month ago.
Anyway, my question is this: is there a way to bring her desire back to normal? (This problem has lasted about a month, btw)
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3 Answers
- SummertimeLv 75 years ago
(I honestly sense a lot of growing up and a lot of facing the realization there could be a child. And so much has filtered through her mind and possibly through yours alone, the one in your pants. No offense at all. The men generally give that worry to the woman as you admitted and stated selfishness on your part. Its different for us.We think about being left with a child, Abortion talk so ugly and mean terrible things people that don't even know you say about you. I say either don't have sex or you run the risk of getting pregnant. You are both pregnant keep in mind. Having unprotected sex is the bravest thing anyone can do. I have no idea where anyone has been.If someone tells me I look clean, And don't feel the need to use protection I would run as far and as fast away from him my legs will carry me. I am Christian so I wont be doing any of it any way. I want you and your friend to see before you the consequences of your actions while making it feel good. I cant tell you how to regain her sex drive for so much has happened between you two. Like the TRUTH said you have to talk to each other.
- Anonymous5 years ago
Well if I was you id talk to her about this, get to know her turn ons and turn offs. If not I think there is tablets you can buy with is good for this sort of thing. It's like the male alternative to viagra. At one point I lost my sex drive after being raped but eventually it got back to normal and I assure you hers will too // the link is an example of the tablets to improve a woman's libido
- 5 years ago
hmmm.....are you sure your gf is being upfront and honest with you? it somewhat sounds like your gf might have been looking forward to having a baby, and might just be putting on a strong face. This might have been the source of the depression. This sounds like something you both really need to talk to each other about, and if need be talk to your doctor about....
