DOES IT HURT WHEN YOU HAVE SEX FOR THE FISRT TIME?

It can hurt, just like it can hurt any time you have sex, but it shouldn't.

Virginity is a way to describe someone who has not yet had sex, it's not something that you can lose and the body does not physically change as a result of having sex the first time. Pain is always a possibility when having sex but the idea it should hurt the first time is a myth, that's not to say that it won't hurt but that it shouldn't hurt - pain is completely preventable, and if it does hurt you know something is wrong so you stop.

Pain is most commonly a result of lack of arousal and/or tensing up - when fully aroused the vagina is not only lubricated but also relaxes, opens, increases in size, and tents to allow penetration without pain or damage, whereas if tense the vaginal muscles tense causing the walls of the vagina to clench together so that penetration is forced so thus causing damage and pain. This is the case with any form of vaginal penetration, if you explore the vagina with your fingers you can feel the difference between when the vaginal muscles are tightened or when they are relaxed, the difference between when aroused or not, and the difference when the vagina is lubricated.

Often people who have sex the first time don't know enough about their bodies to know why sex may hurt so they don't know how to prevent pain, and too often they rush into penis-to-vaginal intercourse without 'foreplay' to ensure the female is aroused or have sex when the female isn't ready to take that step but feel pressured to do so. Often it's the very idea that it could hurt that causes pain - if you expect it to hurt then obviously you're more likely to tense-up, also if you feel you have to tolerate pain rather than having the control to stop sex you'll tense-up too.

Sex should always be pleasurable and penis-to-vaginal intercourse is no different, your body is designed to allow penetration without pain or damage, the idea that it should hurt the first time is one that comes from ignorance of female anatomy and a scare tactic to try to control women's sexuality (e.g. if girls think sex will hurt they will put off having sex). There's no reason to continue having sex if you experience pain, you stop and try something else.

Rather than listening to hear-say and myths, learn the FACTS from reliable sources.

More information:

From OW! to WOW! Demystifying Painful Intercourse - http://www.scarleteen.com/article/pink/from_ow_to_...

First Intercourse 101 - http://www.scarleteen.com/article/sexuality/first_...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9qFojO8WkpA

Yeah it'll hurt a little at first, since ofc you're a virgin, it always hurts. Don't get me wrong, its not excruciating, I doubt its anything serious, a number of girls i know have told me. For the first few strokes, yeah it'll hurt slightly, but it'll be followed after by intense physical pleasure. Just make sure the guy will respect YOUR wishes, so it isnt as painful. You can try putting only half of it in and going deeper now and then with a couple of strokes. Overall, your first time having sex isnt something you should fear. You'll feel a lot more good than bad.

The answer is different for every woman. For a man it doesnt hurt. For a woman it can vary between being uncomfortable for a few minutes to a few times.

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haha i didnt even know the p goes in the v until the end of 8th grade lol. the health teacher never told you but they told you everything else. but yeah it will, especially if you are young. i've heard that you can bleed for a while.

As I was taking my girlfriends virginity, she was screaming.

I asked her if I should stop, but she screamed NO!

I was thinking what the heck am i doing to her!

No.

But sometimes it does for the woman.

just relax and enjoy it.