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Relationship Problem. Please Help me.?
I am in a relationship since 7 years and now the time has come to tie the knot. my family knows everything about our relationships but i had to do lots of struggle s to make my family accept our relationship. but my bf so very much afraid of his dad as he thinks his dad wont accept a hindu girl and he will surely kick him out of his home and of his property also. so i said him, if u cant really face your dad then we can settle down with our own money. but he is not even ready for that as he belongs from a super rich christian family and he feels he will die if he comes out of his comfort zone. so now what should i do? i am planning to talk to his father personally, i am nervous but excited also, because i don`t have any options left in my hand except telling his dad everything and try to convince him. but how to do this? i am not getting enough courage to face his dad but i know i have to do. i love my bf so much, he also loves me but he cant leave his cozy life and his property also. how to convince my father in law? please give me some motivations and strength to do this work, and i am ready to accept Christianity also. i am ready to go to any extent for my love. i did wait for him 7 years and now don`t want to loose him. how to convince his father?? or if u have any other ideas please share with me. Don`t say me to leave him, don`t give any hate comment.i need serious help please. Please pray for my success.
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- DP.Lv 65 years ago
Firstly you need to understand things. Things about yourself, things about feelings, thinks about faith and such like. You are currently driven by your feelings and frankly this is not good. Feelings are notoriously unreliable and fickle. Whilst you can't ever imagine not feeling this gushing love for your boyfriend, this shows your naivety.
Secondly, you cannot become a Christian to please your boyfriend or your boyfriends family. The fact that you think you can shows you know little about the Christian faith or the people who follow it. Let me advise you that if you "fake" such a belief they will know and it will haunt you.
Thirdly, you need to decide for yourself if there's a God and if there is which is the true God. This clearly isn't important to you but it should be the most important thing to you. If the Christian God is true then you need to know it and follow Him. If the hindu gods are true then you should know it and follow them. How else do you think your life should be governed? Is it okay to follow the Christian God if He's false and hence anger the hindu gods? or vice versa? Or do you think you can pretend to be a follower of the true God and fool Him? The reality is that you need integrity. You need to make your decision about God and follow that decision... anything else lacks honesty and integrity no matter what the motive.
Thirdly, if your boyfriends family are really Christian they will not entertain condoning their son marrying someone outside the faith. This is because the bible specifically tells us not to be yoked to unbelievers and can you wonder? If you have children what faith would they be?
Fourthly, I cannot pray for your success in this matter because as a Christian I pray that we will learn God's will and accept it. Therefore, if it's not God's will you get married to this man, I will pray God prohibits this marriage. If it's God's will you marry Him then I'll pray and accept it joyously. This is not about getting God to change His perfect plans in order to accommodate your desire. God is not like that and I thank Him that He's not. If you were seeking the truth, if you understood God, if you wanted eternal life, if wanted peace that passes all understanding, etc then you too would want what God wants even when it's not what you want. I will pray this very moment that God leads you into His truth, that you will get to know Him, that He will guide you and He will comfort you if things don't work out the way you desire but get the glory if you do! Such is the position of a Christian.
Whilst your boyfriend may tell you and may even believe that the reason he can't marry you is that he can't leave his cozy world, if he has any faith in God then he also knows its wrong to get married to you as things stand. It shouldn't be about disappointing his family or being cut of from the riches, though I don't know him and it might be. It should be that he knows deep in his heart God would not be pleased.
I strongly suggest you immediately start out on a journey of investigation into the Christian faith. I suggest you buy a bible and read it from cover to cover. I suggest you consider and evaluate it's history, it's teachings and the things you don't understand and question. I sugget you ask questions from every view on Christian doctrine and ultimately make your own decision on whether it is true or not but most importantly putting aside your desire to conform for your boyfriend or his father. You need to decide for yourself if its true. I believe that if you ABSOLUTELY sincere in knowing the truth God will meet with you in the most profound and personal way such that you will KNOW He is true and joyfully want to follow Him. If this happens your joy will overflow and you will not be able to contain the truth deposited in your heart and you will need not convince anyone of anything because God Himself will be directing your path.
I pray these things for you, over you and in you.
May the true Lord who created everything, upholds everything, knows everything and directs everything meet with you and you with Him, and may you develop a life times relationship with Him.
