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How do I create a new me? A new personality?
Ok let me start of with a little bit about myself so you understand me and my question thats the only reason im telling you this imformation, its not for attention. April 7th, 2016 my friends mom got guardianship of me, since I'd been staying with them since December 2015. Before I came to them I was being physically and verbally abused by both of my parents and my brother. My dad was the only one who physically harmed me and that was rarely. I am 14 years old and I have depression, anxiety, PTSD, and a rare dissociative disorder called depersonalization and derealization syndrome, (If you don't know what it is search it up on Google its horrible). I am on Zoloft which is an anti-depressant and anti-anxiety medication, and I have a counselor and I am currently taking DBT, and CBT therapy. Obviously children take on their parents behavior and I took on some of theirs. I unconsciously say things that I don't mean. I act like them sometimes in ways that I don't even realize. My counselor and my new family that I love dearly, always say be myself. But myself is the side my parents raised. I explained this to my guardian and her husband and they said create a new you then. But how do I do that? I'm going to bring this up to my counselor to see what she says but does anyone have any other advice? Thanks for your time, and please don't criticize me.
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- 5 years agoFavorite Answer
I don't know exactly but may I suggest that you breathe. Before you say anything, take two deep breaths and think about what to say carefully. This will mean you avoid things you don't want to say. Yes you will mirror your family in ways but that's only after years of abuse. You are now In a safe happy home so you will soon pick up new positive personality traits
- Anonymous5 years ago
Don't ever talk to your family again don't talk about them, just quit thinking about them
I am sixteen, been in a similar situation. The old you was you in another life, a past life. And it's gone.
Burn some bridges, do something symbolic when you decide you are a different person
For me, it was breaking plates
I don't know if that makes any sense. But it got all my feelings out.
- 5 years ago
You don t have to be a "new you", you just have to think about the consequences of your words and actions before you carry them out, if you don t like the outcome that you foresee, then do something different. Make a choice to be the kind of person that you really want to be if that means changing, we call this growth, not creating a new personality, growing.
- Anonymous5 years ago
It's tough to change, especially in your case. My suggestion, for all its worth is to get involved in something different, something which you need not excell in but which you treat seriously like Hobbies, or art or something constructive which you can improve over time.
