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I think me and my best friend are growing apart.?
Corey and me have been really good friends for about 5 years, but I don't know what has been happening over the last couple of months. We used to talk all the time, and just be ourselves, but now it seems we get more and more angry and irritable towards each other each time we talk. Nearly every conversation we have ends with one of us getting mad and leaving the chat, or one of us always has an excuse as to why we can't come over. I don't know, I can just feel us growing apart, it feels terrible. I have always been a clingy person, maybe it's me. I have been through more and more **** over the years I knew Corey, he has always been there for me to support me, and I did the same for him, and recently, he hasn't been there for me. My dad and stepmom divorced late last year, and my mom and step dad are getting a divorce soon, I have been so depressed lately, and nobody is there for me. I don't know what to do. Maybe Corey is just tired of all the **** that comes along with being close to me. I'm sorry for the long post, I just don't know who to talk to.
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- 5 years agoFavorite Answer
I totally know where you are coming from. I was super close with my best friend, like brothers, until we started fighting everyday for stupid things and getting on each others nerves. I was so sad that we were growing apart and didn't know what to do. (just like u, i can be a little clingy when i care about someone).
this is what you should do. first, arrange with ur friend to meet in person somewhere and let him know that it bothers u ur growing apart from each other, ask him if he's pissed at you for something and then apologize for anything you think could irritate or have irritated him (including being clingy at times, apologize for that). let him also know however how much you care about him as a friend and how much you miss the old times when you two used to be always together. let him also know that you will always be here for him no matter what. After u met and clarified, don't stress him too much with texts or phone calls if u feel he's irritated when u try to talk to him. try texting him like once a day, not more, with statements, not questions (ex: hope everything is going well etc) so that u let him know u still care and are still here for him but he doesnt feel the need to answer. don't ask him anymore to hang out, wait for him to ask u when he's ready but if he asks you, say yes. (send him a text like "if u want to hang out whenever i would be down for it). I think you two need a little time apart from each other after clarifying.
I am sorry for your parents, but I also think that if he was really a good friend he would have been there for you. so maybe u should also consider how much he really cares about u at this point. it might be that he's irritated at u for something in particular and that u can sort it out when u talk, it might be however that the two of you are just growing apart and that the bond you had before will never be there again. I went through even tougher times than urs but my friend, in his own way, was always there for me.
last advice, work on the clingy problem!!!! i know you are probably clingy because u care about ur best friend but u really have to learn how to be independent before u can form a proper and strong relationship/friendship. try not to irritate him or bother him too much, like sending 1 million texts or always calling him. try to take ur distances always letting him know how much u care about him and what he means to u as a friend.
