can I sue for violating a cease and desist request?

So YOU wrote and sent the letter? Yeah my guess is you don't even know what a cease and desist is for. Your personal letter pretty much means nothing. The no contact idea would at best be order of protection from a court. A cease and desist is a letter to tell someone to stop using something without permission, and then the company sues IF the person doesn't obey the order. However the person was breaking the law and the C&D is just a polite order to stop and isn't needed.

"Can I sue for violating a cease and desist request?" - Not exactly, no. A request is just that - a request. I won't say it has *no* legal effect, but it doesn't have the power you seem to think it has. You need to get a restraining order from a court if you want to enforce the no-contact thing.

You can sue them for defamation whether or not they obey your cease and desist, if you have a case.

I send someone a cease and desist request asking that she stop defamation my name and have no more contact with me. 4 days later her uncle comes into my store saying I'm wrong I must be going thru something and that I have stirred the pot and that they have police officers and attorneys in there family too. Is this a form of intimidation and did she indirectly violate the cease and desist request. Do I have grounds to now sue her?

It's a request not a court order. You cannot sue as this was never filed through the courts

You would have to get the courts to issue one if you wanted to be able to sue

You sent a request, not an order. It is not binding

If she doesn't cease and desist, yes, but your letter didn't cover her uncle. You didn't send her uncle a cease and desist letter. You would have to both be able to prove his visit and prove that he was acting as her agent, that he was there at her behest. Even if he was, you have to be able to prove it, which is a tall order. If you can't then you'd lose any lawsuit you filed against her.

just vote who cares