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Ever been in my situation? (sorry for repeating my question, I just need more answers)?
My dad told me to change the caption of a photo of mine on Facebook. I was posing with a rock and roll sign with my hand while at a party outside the country and I put a quote over the photo(Which I thought was perfect to go with it) which says "I stopped fighting with my inner demons, we're on the same side now".
He totally freaked out and told me to never joke about "demons". I told him it means nothing and it's really silly of him to react that way and it's not like I was lighting a joint on the photo. He didn't listen and went on lecturing me about the "devil". So, I gave in to his request and deleted the caption.
I don't hate him or want him gone like some spoiled teenager. I love the man to death and he's done so much for me I owe my life to him, I don't want to hurt his feelings. But, this Christian thing is very inappropriate. I'm 21 and I thought I was free to do what ever the hell I want, But, all I get is my super religious family breathing down my neck, still telling me what's right from wrong.
I was born in the Philippines so most of my family worship this Jesus guy. They don't want us to move out too far from home so they decided to live half an hour away from where I am staying right now. They come over on Sundays to invite me to Church it's ridiculous.
P.S If you're thinking that I should just make another social media account, I've tried it already. But, family and pastors seem to find me no matter what. LMFAO
So, halp !
2 Answers
- Anonymous4 years ago
I'm an atheist but I can see that to a religious person their faith is VERY important and that joking about things like demons or being disrespectful to Jesus or God is, to them, very offensive. They can't just turn their beliefs off and, as you are their own daughter who they love very much, they will be even more concerned.
If you are not living with your parents (under their roof) then at 21 you can do whatever you want - what you describe has nothing to do with your father. Maybe you need to "have it out" to explain that ypu respect their beliefs but that you don't share them and, as an adult, they should respect yours.
I think that, objectively, it's YOU who is right but that sometimes doesn't count for much. In my life there have been many times when I've felt that I needed to have "a serious talk" with someone and set them straight. As I've got older though I've realised that it's sometimes just not worth the offence and hurt that it can cause and that it's better just to clench my teeth and "grin and bear it".
I think you're in a difficult situation and I hope it turns out okay. Maybe the only real answer is to be less close, in all senses, to your family. This might come soon enough.
I'm old now but I remember all the arguments I had with my own mother and how "unfair" and domineering I found her. At times it was like carrying a rock around. NOTHING I did seemed to please her. I felt stiffled by her and to be honest her death in 1986 "freed" me to be who I wanted - no one disapproving, questioning or criticising. Wish she was still there though, it was a small price to pay.
Good luck.
- mokrieLv 74 years ago
Well you need to decide what's more important. A media site or the only parents you will ever have?
