is she uninterested? bad texter? or?

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So i started talking to this girl online, on a dating app. we both liked each other on the app so we started a chat on there. i initiated it by saying hi first. we chatted back and forth for a while but i really liked her vibe and thought she was pretty. i told her i liked talking to her and asked if i could have her number. she said yeah and gave it to me, so we started texting. but this girl texts back so slow if at all. 
She's always pleasant and contributes to the conversation positively when we text, she never is short with me or seems annoyed but she takes forever to respond to me. Sometimes she will respond in an hour, sometimes the next day, sometimes not at all. and i find myself initiating conversation with her just to talk to her. I'm just confused because even though we were just getting to know each other i thought she'd express some level of interest more than a text every 24 hours. I've tried flirting with her by telling her how pretty and nice i think she is and she would usually return the compliment to me. she even told me that I'm romantic and she thought it was cute. But once we talk for a little, she just disappears. Because I eagerly wait for people I like to text me back, when someone isn't responding I take it that they just don't like me. and like i said we are just getting to know each other so it's nothing serious. but i do really want to get closer to her. i just dont know how if text is our only form of communication and she doesn't text me much

Rue_12! · Answer

No offense to Jcr, but I totally disagree, I would definitely classify myself as a "bad texter" I could be really into you and still respond 5-8 hours later. Sometimes I respond at the end of the day, but honestly it has nothing to do with the guy at all. In fact, I have no clue how people happen to be good texters. For one, I can t understand how anyone could possibly be okay with being tied down to an electronic device. I am happy to cut out a solid 4 hours for you out of my schedule this weekend and I will not have my phone out at all because I value quality time with you and want to focus on you alone. Texting seems pointless and an interruption to my day. In my opinion, texting really only needs to happen when it comes to arranging plans. Another reason I m an awful texter is because I m an undergraduate student in an extremely difficult major and I find that whenever I pause to reply to a text, the quality of my work suffers because I struggle to redirect my focus back to my work after texting someone. I have awful ADD and my medication causes me to hyperfocus which makes this problem even worse. I tell guys right at the beginning that I m an awful texter for this reason and they still somehow think it s an excuse and I don t like them when that isn t the case at all. To be honest, I find it annoying when a guy expect me to text back right away or even within an hour because that tells me that he doesn t have enough to do. No matter who you are, it is impossible to multitask without sacrificing the quality of your work at least a little bit and that isn t really something you can do if you still want to get straight A s and juggle extracurriculars. That being said, I would look into how this girl lives her life and definitely find out if she has an Attention Deficit Disorder because I can almost definitively say that anyone with one will be an awful texter. If she seems to be busy with a pretty booked schedule, chances are she s replying so late because she wants to take the time to type out a thoughtful reply rather than just give you one word answers. If she seems to have a lot of free time and doesn t do much, then sorry to say, but she might not be that into you. Hope this helps!

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It sounds like she's uninterested. Move on.

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