Is this fair.I am 74 and widowed.When I go to my sons houses they expect me to return the favour and put a party on for them at my house.?

The problem with our children is that they do not realise we are growing old and not up to things as we were.

A gentle reminder to them is what is needed.

I had to do this when I reached 70.

Say No, my days of doing parties are over.

You having a party for your children might have been expected in the past. Since this might have been a family

ritual in the past, you have kept it up.

You might inform your children that you are no longer up to this family ritual of hosting this party, and if there would be a party, they would be required to do the majority if not all of the preparation for the party.

I hope this has been of some benefit to you, good luck.

"FIGHT ON"

It is an unreasonable expectation. Tell them you don't have the energy you had when you were younger and you are in no condition to host a party or to clean up afterwards.

Doesn't matter what others think is fair or not, if you don't want to have a party then you need to tell them so...........

They should never expect anything more than a short visit with you for coffee or tea.

Never, unannounced.

of course not. It doesn't work that way.

LOL, as an ADULT you know you DON'T have to do that.

ridiculous

You can say no...