Do you have to get married in the marines?

It isn't a requirement if it was they would have said so.

Here's the hard truth, getting married now at 19 because you miss her and you've just started in the Marines would be STUPID!! Financially, emotionally and mentally you are not ready for marriage and either is she. Being apart should STRENGTH and test your relationship so it can work when you are both ready. You need to concentrate on being a Marine while saving money and she needs to continue her education, get work experience, & save money. If in 2 or 3 years you are still together then consider it.

You earn 2.5 days of leave per year. You've already used 10 so far by going home. If stationed stateside then you can request leave from your command if not in the middle of something or getting ready for deployment. She can come and visit you, she can't stay in barracks while there though.

I should imagine that married or not, you will get to see her for the same amount of time. Don't marry yet - you're still young. Being a Marine/Military wife is tough (I was one) especially if she is young too. Once you are settled into regular Marine life, then consider your options. You may get posted away from your home town, and if you're married, she will move with you - away from her family and friends. Hold off marriage until you're both a little older and can both accept separation...

No you do not.

If you are not ready for marriage you should not.

Being a marine, married or not, you may spend time away from your wife. You could be station some where, where you can not take your wife. Getting married, so you do not have to have a long distance relationship, could backfire.

Work on the relationship.

Do a long distance.

It will work or not.

That would be true if you get married.

You are pretty young to get married because you are away from your girlfriend. That is not a reason to get married

Marines have a high divorce rate i blame the crappy commands changing your home life and marines that are too immature for a relationship

But yes your pay is low and your better off getting married collecting bah and living off base and avoid living in the barracks as a boot and you will get to see her every day

You can see her as often as you can afford it and have enough leave on the books.

If you expect to live with her, you either need to marry her, make E-4 or 5 so that you are authorized BAH and can move off base or hope that she is independently wealthy and can afford to live where you are stationed on her own so that you can visit when not in a duty status.

BUT no you do not have to "get married" in the Marines and whether or not you will be authorized Recruiter Assistance duty (or HARP as they used to call it in the Navy) will be up to you, your Chain of Command when you run a request chit and the Recruiter.

Once you are in the Fleet, you can take some leave. As you know, you get 30 days of leave a year. Most units conduct a leave block in the summer and around Christmas and let everyone take a couple weeks of leave if they wish. You can request to take leave outside of these periods and it is up to your chain of command whether or not they let you go. It all depends on operational committments. If you have a 2 week field op coming up and you ask to take 2 weeks of leave during that time, they will most likely say no. We do have alot of time off though. You get a 3 or 4 day weekend for most federal holidays. I just got 4 days off for Xmas, went back to work for 3 days, and got another 4 days off for New Years and didnt have to take any leave. If you do not get married, you will only see her once in awhile when you do take leave or get 72s and 96s. If she lives relatively close, she can come visit you on the weekends. But, outside of getting married, which I do not recommend for young Marines, you will not see her that much. I dated my wife for 5 years before getting married. I wanted to ensure I was financially secure before doing it. We got married the day I was promoted to Sgt. As I have told you several times already regarding recruiters assistance, you have to get permission from your chain of command and your recruiter. Ask your recruiter for the form and ask your chain of command to sign it. Probably won't happen though, since you are getting orders to your first duty station.

Yes. A bill was passed mandating all men in the marines to marry each other en masse and have buttsecks whenever possible

For me it was pretty close to love at first sight. I met my Filipina girl friend Late November 1969 three days later my ship, USS Sanctuary went back to Vietnam. Over the next six months we were together less than twenty days we did write weekly letters. I took my R & R to Manila for one last fling with my girl friend. We stayed at the Pines Hotel in Baguio when I ask "Marry me" She laughed I said again "Marry me" this time brought tears. Two days later we were married. Our love is still growing after 46 years. I went against all my buddies advise "don't do it Bill." It's not for everyone many wives get picked by a Jody as soon as you deploy. I had several girl friends Stateside and was engaged long enough to get a "Dear John "letter...........

Go home on leave and get married. Once you're IN a military branch - the recruiters have NO say so about anything.

You can go home on leave and see her. Generally that's about twice a year. Or she could move to wherever you are stationed and you could see her most nights and weekends.