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Why am I annoyed by him?
I recently started dating a guy for about a month. I met him through Tinder and we went on, so far, six dates. During the second time I went on a date with him, I became annoyed. He constantly texts and calls me and even facetime. I've never been with someone so clingy and needy. And maybe that's why I feel so annoyed. I respect his space and I believe distance would bring us closer instead of always being together. If I miss his calls or texts, he'll eavesdrop me on facebook and instagram and calls me out for it.
"Hey I see you're awake, why don't you give me a call or text?" or "Why didn't you answer?"
There are times when we don't go on dates because something comes up. Importantly, I'm very family oriented and if my family needs me I'll be there and I'd have to cancel plans with him. Of course, he got so upset. "We made plans tonight, why can't your family rain check?" That day I was furious! I was so mad that he didn't understand that, that to me, my family comes first. He wanted to be the number one priority.
I do love him and the sex is good but I can't stand him at times. Did I love him too soon? Even though we felt a good vibe.. I feel so mean yet he comes back. I remember he gave me my first rose because I never got a rose. He gave me a rose one day and the next few days he got me a rose again. He pays for our dates/food even though I refuse that I'd pay too. But he says he'll do anything to make me happy. He is a sweet and sensitive guy but why am I annoyed?
2 Answers
- 4 years ago
I feel you! Honestly, it seems like there are good traits with this guy since he is being a gentleman buying you flowers and buying dinners, etc. BUT I do understand your concern about his behaviors. I have a few thoughts here since i think it could honestly be a couple of different things:
1) Sometimes different people have different levels of communication styles and different ways and needs of communicating. Some people are very verbal....other not so much. Some people like privacy and need space, while others need more attention. It could simple be that he loves talking with you because that is his personality to be more interactive. Ask yourself too....are you holding off from responding to him for too many hours or days? I try to respond back to people asap....but that is just me. I try not to ignore peoples messages....this is just my thoughts since i don't have more information about the situation...
2) He could be insecure. People who are insecure often text them a lot and follow them and act clingy. This is a huge turn off obviously. If this is the case, and you care about him....why not let him know that he is doing that? Maybe he doesn't realize how he is acting? Give him a chance to improve himself and correct his mistakes. I have done this in the past with people....and it has worked well.
Will you also answer my YA question? Sometimes the link doesn't let you click it...so i will post it here and in the comments below my comment too. Thanks! /question/index?qid=20170...
- 4 years ago
Because you like your space. Talk to him about it, if he doesn't respect that then leave him. I don't think you love him I think you enjoy is company and that's okay. It's only been a month. You shouldn't have to step on eggshells to make sure he won't know you're ignoring his texts. That's too much sweetie. Good luck!
