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Why isn't the girl I'm dating messaging me back? What's going on with her? Please help (read details)?
I asked two friends of mine for advice about what I should do and they both gave me different opinions about it. So I'm asking here to get a better idea.
I can't fit all of this into one question so I'll post a link to the rest at the end of this post (there are 5 parts). I'd really appreciate your advice and insight.
This is what I said to my friend(s) about what's going on:
So as you know, I'm 21. She is 19. We've been dating for about 2 months now. She lives about an hour away from me. She used to text and call me first sometimes before I could even get a word in, and text me back fast or in a timely manner. Now I have to message her twice or more sometimes before I even get a response from her and I only hear from her a few times a week. We used to talk almost everyday and now it's different, and she started being like this before she even started college this semester. She says she's busy but sometimes but I see her on Facebook and she doesn't even reply or answer my call. I'm starting to fear that she's losing interest, talking to some other guy or cheating. It's making me miserable. Idk if this helps but she said she was molested as a little girl (doesn't remember), that her older cousin tried to rape her when she was an older girl (remembers that), and that he also forced her to kiss him one time, which stinks.
Part 2 is in this link: https://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20170...
2 Answers
- Anonymous4 years ago
I read all 5 parts. This girl is making you miserable, anxious, and sad. She really needs to get her s'hit together enough so she doesn't torture you and make you miserable.
Replying back or not cracking stupid jokes when you say romantic stuff would be a start.
I'm really sorry she's being this way. You have to know that she's not doing it on purpose, or to be mean, she just panics. A lot.
However, that she got abused cannot be an excuse to abuse you. She needs to start counselling and try out different talking therapies till she finds a good match.
Also, at 19 she's and adult and should be implementing no contact with a mother who hits her, surely that much even a messed up woman knows.
You can and should be her lifeline, and she's lucky to have you, but you should not be subjected to this horrid treatment, and once she's better, if ever, she will be VERY sorry she treated you this poorly...
Insist that she gets help, be honest about your feelings and fear, do not accuse her of anything just tell her how you feel.
She's lucky to have you but she'll push you away unless she starts getting help ASAP.
You will suffer this misery until you can suffer no more, she will lose you.
Again, threat gently, she doesn't mean to be this horrid, she's traumatised and cannot see anything in proper context. However if she has a problem she's responsible for accepting your help and seeking professional help.
If she was on physical pain she would not just live with it till she goes start raving mad, she's seek help.
I'm really sorry she's putting you through so much.
She's very lucky to have you.
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If you need a friend and an ear.
It must be very difficult for you to be in love with her, right now.
- Anonymous4 years ago
did you guys actually ever meet up and have sex? if not, then she dumped you for a real man who has the confidence to make a hook up happen. remember, girls always wanna hook up and have sex. even girls who were molested, still enjoy sex.