Should I move on if this guy I met on Match keep cancalling the date?

Hello, Taken!

I must tell you from the outset that I have an affinity for "Askers" who deign to include both their online moniker and avatar--be it a illustration or a photo--with their post, rather than announce themselves as an anonymous contributor, because it bespeaks their sincerity and seriousness toward resolving whatever issues that brought them to this site.

Speaking of sincerity, it would seem that you're the only character in this scenario who appears to know what it means. The activities of your Match.com date has all the hallmarks of someone who, rather than juxtaposing school projects as he asserts, is busily juxtaposing other dates.

And prioritizing them. He cancels his dates with you because he'd rather be with someone who piques his interest more. Eventually he will make time for you--he cannot continue doing this forever--but that may not be until the third, fourth or even fifth rescheduled date. He's not taking you seriously so it's well nigh time that you set some parameters.

The point of registering with an online dating service is to meet people who would ordinarily escape notice in everyday life. Right? So what is the best way of going about attaining that goal? By being as good as your word, particularly when it comes to setting up the date. Things do happen and sometimes it's necessary to reschedule but in your date's case, it's difficult for me to swallow his sudden recollection that he has a project to complete; that is something that is planned in advance so he would know of its demands and whether or not he could make adjustments. The usual procedure is to schedule the date around the so-called project; a first-time date takes a few hours at best and he could always return to his project in plenty of time before he calls it a day and goes to bed. I feel that your sense of being jerked around is on the money and most likely for the aforementioned juggling act. It's easy to line up several dates on Match.com or any other dating site; I am a member of one myself and, although I don't indulge in the sleight-of-hand that I suspect your date engages in, I realize that the best feature of online dating is that you can be whoever you want to be. As you have noted, his being 15 miles away--a what, half-an-hour's drive, depending on the speed?--is not a lot but it may as well be a zillion; at this juncture he controls the progress of this yet-to-happen date and is in no hurry to manifest it.

So. What to do on Wednesday if he cancels again? Tell him in a calm but firm voice that you're willing to allow for a third reschedule but that is where you draw the line. Tell him that a first-time date is in some ways just as important as honoring a job interview; most interviewees are compelled to move Heaven and Earth to prepare for the event because good first impressions are paramount and so far he has failed your litmus test. The only way his procrastination with regard to you will cease is for you to make sure he understands that your patience is limited; he either will make a firm commitment or disappear. Psst. Hope for the former but expect the latter.

the first cancel is fine, things happen. BUT if he cancels a second time too, not good. he's a waste of time.