I desparatly want children. My boyfiend has 2 children and does not want anymore. I cannot have my own. Should I leave him or stay?

If you can't have your own children, then why would you leave him anyway, idiot? Just love his children like your own. If you cant have your own biological kids anyway, then whats the problem?

If you cannot have kids, and your boyfriend has 2 kids, then what is your problem? It makes no sense. If you can't accept his kids as your own kids, then don't stay with him. End your relationship now.

If you cannot have your own children and want to use a surrogate or adopt than you need to be with a man who is 100% on board with that. Adoption is expensive, difficult, and emotionally challenging, and who would adopt a child to a couple when one half of that couple says "I don't want this child." ???

You two are just not a match. Children is one of the hugest life decisions for a married couple (and really for everyone). I do not want children, so while dating I never became involved with a man who did want them, because it wouldn't be fair to him, and we would just both be wasting our time. I am now engaged to a man who also does not want children.

Your relationship is in dead water. If you want a child, then it is time to walk away from him. You are wasting both of your time by staying together. He needs to find a woman who will accept the two he already has, and is 100% happy to not ever have any of her own. You need to find a man who does want children, and is willing to walk side by side with you down the road of adoption (of whatever your plan is to bring a child into your lives).

"It's possible to love someone, but not be the one they should marry." (I borrowed this quote from another yahoo user, Rosalie, and want to give her credit for that wise line) --- and that is precisely where you are. You love him, but he just isn't the one you should marry. And the longer you stay with him, the harder it will be for you to find someone who IS compatible with your life goals.

Best of luck!

WTF? You're going to base a major life decision on the opinions of strangers on the internet? You're a special kind of stupid. Maybe it's best that you don't have. There's plenty of retards in the world already.

no one can answer this question but you. 40 years down the line, which are you going to regret more: not having children or losing your boyfriend?

Your question lacks information. Reading between the lines, he already has 2 that maybe are not around much; they're with their mother, and he doesn't want any more? So you two are effectively living a childless life. That is unacceptable to you. If that's the case, then yes, leave.

Or, are you saying that he "only" has two, doesn't want more, but you want a huge family so his stopping at two is unacceptable to you? If that's the case, then yes, leave.

If either of the above scenarios are correct, then either leave or readjust your wants to not include children.

Beg him for one tiny little only baby. And don't forget to make the face for it. If he doesn't fall for the face then move on and find yourself a man who would love to have your babies.

If you can't have your own, than why not help raise his? If this isn't an option, than I recommend leaving. Whether or not you can see yourself having children with the other person is one of the big 3 pillars of a relationship.

For me children were SO important

that I would have left this guy a long time ago

REMEMBER this ;; children stays in your life forever ;;but mens come and goes

Mother of 5 beautiful sons

Hi so why leave if you can't have children what is the issue here.