Answer this ! Or you die !?

There was a time in my life when I had a couple of friends who would call me in the middle of the night or whenever and need me and I'd "be there" for them. Help them. Give them rides. Talk with them all night through their fears and sorrows and issues. It was, in both cases, a very one-sided relationship. But they'd been on-going for years. One night shortly after my husband, then boyfriend, moved in with me, one of my friends gave me a call around 3 am. I quietly went to the other room to talk it out and my boyfriend woke up. He quietly came into the kitchen where I was and silently listened for awhile... for around 15 minutes actually and then he stood up, came over, took the phone, and told my friend that they'd better not pull this "ish" on me ever again and I was no longer available to be their emotional toilet bowl and, again, that they were never to call again after 7 pm because I deserved a good night sleep and I deserved real friends and I deserved respect and they were showing me none at all. It would no longer be tolerated. !!!!

I thought I was furious for about 20 seconds and then I was flooded with gratitude and we stayed up and talked about these relationships I had that drained me, took from me, were all about the other people and what was up with ME (!) that I allowed people to use me like that in my life. And he said that because for both of these other people it was a HABIT. They had the HABIT of requiring this of me. And I worried about them and hoped for them and listened to them... and they were one-sided relationships. I'm very thankful that my husband stepped in and put an end to them both.

Guess what! The fact that they couldn't do that to me anymore? Totally ended the friendships.It's not like they were interested in what I was doing! Only what I could do for them.

Sounds like you're one of those people that are all about drama and your problems are soooo important to you that you think other people want to hear them too. But the truth is, no one cares about your problems. They are your problems and yours alone. He was nice to have put up with it as long as he did. You need to chillax and stop forcing your issues into other people's faces. That's **** is ANNOYING. I hate those kinds of people. I wouldn't talk to you either to be honest.