Did/does your spouse have any quirks that bothered you that you just had to get over?

My husband used to snore so loudly that you could even hear him if you were downstairs. I was so annoyed and found it hard to sleep sometimes. Now that he has passed away I would give anything in the world to be disturbed by his snoring once again. Be careful what you wish for, you just might get it. Now there is no loud snoring and most nights I cannot sleep at all. I so miss that sound that once annoyed me to no end.

I love questions like this, just to see what others say.

I've been happily married for 12 years, but the reason we're happy is both of us have learned to pick our battles. For example, he's the guy who will put a box of Triscuits back in the cupboard with ONE freaking cracker left in it. Or...we drink organic milk, so it's still in cartons. He'll put it back with a teaspoon left in it. I thought I solved the Triscuit problem by always buying 2 boxes and hiding one for me. Then he found the hidden box and did the same thing with it. At that point, all you can do is laugh.

My quirk that drives him insane is my bathroom sloppiness. We have a huge master bathroom, with a large double vanity. But I have so much crap flying I've "encroached" (he even used that word) on his space! He actually wants his own bathroom, lol.

To answer the 2nd part of your question, I usually get past it by quickly reminding myself that no marriage is quirk free, and is this really worth an argument? But for us, humor can defuse a lot of it. We both can be quick to anger, but it can disappear just as quickly (on minor or ankle-biter type issues).

Many, the first few years were full of adjustments that included marriage counseling. One of the first things to be tossed out the window were gender roles. The second was the belief that I had any right to expect any specific types of behaviors. Both adults with minds of their own, neither has the right to dictate, there are no rights and wrongs unless it actually puts the finances or kids at risk. Whether I like or dislike something is irrelevant if she has the opposite feelings on the issue. Both of us needed to learn to think before doing something that would hurt the other, whether intentionally or not. Think about how an action impacts the entire family first and foremost. Allow the spouse to weigh their own actions as opposed to judging them.

I was young when I married the first time, and it was a bit change to go from living at home with family, to being married. My ex and I went 'round and 'round over the whole toilet set up/down issue. That ended when I glued it down (he still lifted it, but the little 'feet' on the bottom stayed stuck to the bowl. LOL!)

I don't remember any other specific things he did that bothered me (we've been split up since 1992). We had a LOT in common (more than I've had with any guy I've known since).

She doesn't always do what she says she's going to do. The way I got over it was by consciously deciding not to automatically believe everything she says she's going to do. I now take more of a "Hm, we'll just have to wait and see if that actually happens" kind of attitude, whereas I used to think of her statements more as promises, which did not help.