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I have been asked to help a lesbian couple conceive. I am a California resident, but the 'deed' will be done in Nevada?
Okay, so my long time close friend is finally in a happy, secure relationship with a woman. She's a mother herself and her fiance, also a woman, wants to have a child. We've pretty much negotiated out all the details. I just have some concerns.
So, suppose this relationship fizzles? It happens. Would the Mother be able to come after me for money? If we all signed a notarized document that we all agree that I'm just a donor, and that's it, would that be enough?
I've already done my own research, but I want to see if what I uncovered is true or not.
5 Answers
- Anonymous3 years agoFavorite Answer
You'll want to talk to an attorney. A good one. Men in your situation have been successfully sued for child support in the past. Given that there are two states involved, it may become even more complicated. Investing a few hundred dollars in legal fees now will probably save you tens of thousands of dollars in the long run.
- Anonymous3 years ago
You need to seek professional legal advice. As you are in the USA the "rules" may differ from state to state. You need to check what your legal obligations to the child would be. You may find the law considers you obligated to support the child even if the couple did not separate.
It would also be worthwhile to consider how this will effect you emotionally. The thought of donating your semen may not seem like a big deal. However, nine months down the line when there is a real human being involved and you are the child's biological father you may feel different.
If these two women want one of them to have a child why do they need to get you involved? Human relationships rarely go as smoothly as planned. Have they not given consideration to anonymous sperm donation?
P.S. This is not really an LGBT issue - it's a legal one.
- choko_canyonLv 73 years ago
I believe you would be protected by the contract you described, but if you're really prepared to go through with this, it would be prudent to consult an attorney once you have that contract in your hand, but before you sign it. The attorney might charge you a consultation fee of $100 or $200 bucks, and you could be saving yourself a lot of money, time and heartache.
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- Anonymous3 years ago
If it were me:
I’d ask that they be married and not just a couple. It’s not just a piece of paper, marriage confers rights and protections for a family. If something ever were to happen to the birth mother, her wife would then be the surviving parent. It also would give visitation rights, insurance benefits and whole host of other things. We’d be talking about the safety of my child and i’d Want the best for his or her future. I’d also want to make sure they have good jobs, don’t do drugs and are good citizens with no history of domestic abuse.
I’d ask to be like an uncle that can be in the life distantly so that I could watch the child grow.
I’d ask about inseminating the wife in the future. After all - then the children would be half siblings.
Are you being paid? The surrogate business is huge. There are all sorts of laws. I don’t think you’d be out of line asking for an attorney.
