How to get over a guy?

Whatever you choose to do, don't put your wife in too much pain. She at least deserves that.

Build a bridge.

Start backing off from him. Go meet other guys. Get involved with gay/bi activities and meet other people.Being around him all the time will cause you nothing but pain.

How to get over a guy?

•Set your own goals

•Set your own standards

•Get involved with your creative ideas

•Go for some relaxing therapy

Not a lot to advise you on, frankly having been in the same situation. In a previous situation I just finally had to completely remove myself and cut off contact- which was really difficult. The memories stayed for years though. Back now, in the same situation with another friend, and he says he has no interest but then sometimes what he says when intoxicated seems to indicate otherwise. So I am still pondering my path here-- but this time I have been more frank with myself and admitting that while I may have feelings for him I have to accept that he may just not have those same feelings or at least at the same level that I do. But not sure there is any answer to the dilemma.

1) Imagine he is your sibling. Think of him as a relative. Get to the point where you would think of being with him as incest.

2) get with other guys.

3) Never cheat on your wife. Only sleep with a guy if you can get her approval in advanced if you can’t get that - you have to decide if you are going to stay with your wife or not. If you don’t love her - let her find a guy who will. If you love your wife and you have to stay monogamous - then stay with her. If it’s best that you part ways and find a husband that is in to you - then do it. But don’t cheat behind her back - that is low.

Stop putting your emotions into the guy, and START putting your penis in him instead

You are playing with fire my friend. First of all, you are both married and have kids. Are you willing to sacrifice your families for these feelings you have? Secondly, you say he is "slightly bisexual". What does that even mean? But you kind of cover this with "he's not into you". Okay, so these feelings are going nowhere. You are very depressed. I understand that and I can fully appreciate why you're depressed. This is unrequited love (or maybe it's lust?). And you can't stop seeing him because you are so close. Another question does either wife know? You need help with the depression. Normally I'd say get distance from this object of your affection in time and space. Cut off all contact until you get over your feelings which might be forever. But it doesn't seem to be possible in this case. I urge you to get some help with the depression. See your doctor or get a therapist who can help you. And be honest with him or her. You are in a very difficult situation. Good luck.