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Red asked in Family & RelationshipsFriends · 3 years ago

my boyfriend doesn't like me telling him my feelings?

he told me to keep it to myself... But I have no one else to talk to. I have no friends. I only have him...

Why doesn't he like when I tell him my things?

I'm 26 he is 29. We've been together for a year and a half..

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  • 3 years ago

    He apparently isn't interested in that part of you. That makes me wonder what other parts is he not interested in and just what is he doing with you. If you had friends before you met him and he is the one that discouraged you having any friends you have a problem. Classic maneuver of control freak is to isolate your victim as that makes them easier to control, this looks like what is happening to you. A control freak loves no one but himself.

  • 3 years ago

    Many guys are not comfortable discussing feelings; they prefer problems they can fix. They usually can't fix your feelings of inadequacy, sadness, frustration, insecurity, etc. You're better off discussing those emotions with girl friends (who may not try to "fix" you, but will provide a sympathetic ear). You also can't expect one person to "be your everything" because that's a heavy burden on a relationship. You need other friends that you can confide in, go shopping with, do things with, etc. -- and not just him. It's also possible that he's just an immature jerk who isn't willing to put much effort into a relationship. He may like having someone to share his bed and help pay the rent, but he isn't interested in a long-term commitment so he doesn't want to get tangled up in your emotions.

  • 3 years ago

    Men don’t like to talk about feelings. They like to talk about activities and events.

  • 3 years ago

    Him not having empathy for you is a bad sign.

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  • 3 years ago

    He is selfish and rude a bad person

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    3 years ago

    He isn't mature or interested enough in your emotions - probably just your body ad what yo can do for him.

    Confide more in your family. Make more friends! To be liked, generally, it helps to be more interestED than interestING. Listening is good for making friends: ask people questions about themselves and their opinions and listen to them without interruption, except for little comments that demonstrate that you're REALLY listening. It shows you are taking them seriously, as in respect and acceptance. Don't sit there thinking about what you will say, because that shows more interest in yourself than them. Little pauses demonstrate that you are thinking about what they have said anyway. You can ask them how they felt about what they have just told you, or other specific questions to show you have been listening and taking them seriously. Be open minded and try not to disagree with people. For example, if they like a band you hate, ask what it is they like about them, best track, etc. (avoid the word, “why” as it can sound challenging). You can always say you don't listen to them much but you will now or something. Asking for advice is also good. Genuinely, of course, & don't overdo it. Ditto information – we feel pleased to tell someone something interesting they did not know, such as what’s on in town, latest sports score, etc., so by showing interest in their opinion, knowledge, etc. you’ll get some good feelings from them. Smiling is a good sign of acceptance. A lot of eye contact can also be good. Remember, if you want to have a friend, you have to BE a friend, and the best way to impress someone is to be impressed by them! One thing you can do is always to ensure you have a straight back: sit, stand and walk tall (hips forward) and take reasonably long, confident strides when you walk: this has the “reverse psychology” effect of helping us to feel more confident. Once we have self respect and a sense of self worth, we tend to find that other people respect us more too.

    Good Luck!

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