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Did I push him away? Help pleaseeee?
I was seeing a guy for about two weeks. Things were going super well until I asked what he was looking for. He said he wasn't looking anything, no commitment, no love etc. But went on about being hurt by his ex girlfriend. I felt like I was a rebound and he was wasting my time, so I called him out on it. He said it wasn't like that, he was over her. Anyways I stoped talking to him because we didn't want the same thing anyways. But I truly miss his friendship so I texted him after 3 days. I'm not sure if what I'm doing is okay or if he will be okay with talking to him after we stopped talking
3 Answers
- seedy historyLv 73 years ago
Sometimes people are looking for fun and dancing and walks and the notion of needing to be seeking a life partner is years out of their mind. No one needs to feel guilty or bad about that. Or get "called out" about it after TWO WEEKS of dating! Maybe if it's 1835 or something...
Yes, you SHOVED him away.. but that doesn't mean you can't give him a call anyway to see what'll happen. It's not going to be on your rules now though.
- ?Lv 73 years ago
He pushed you away by dumping his ex girlfriend drama on you. He isn't your friend, he only wants to sleep with you, and get over her. He was upfront about where you stand. Trust your instincts and move on. If you choose to wade back in to that mess, then you have only yourself to blame for the consequences.
- Anonymous3 years ago
Honey, you didn't like the answers you got last time you asked this same question. Asking anonymously doesn't change the situation. You are a very young woman. You think dating for two weeks is meaningful. it isn't.
He probably wants some simple, NSA sex, and you're upset that you let him kiss you. The fact that he's over his girlfriend doesn't mean he wants a relationship. One doesn't necessarily have anything to do with another. He CAN be over her, and not want a relationship with someone else. You don't see that, because you're so young and desperate, any relationship is better than none at all. That's why you're obsessing about a few dates over 14 days.
Stop fantasizing that your love will change him. Love doesn't change anyone. You can't make him love you. You want something different from what he wants. You're just itching to give him the opportunity to manipulate you into bed. Go ahead, if that's what you want, but a little girl upset about a kiss will be devastated to be used for sex.
ETA:
Your instincts to ask early on what he was looking for were good. You sensed *something.* asked and got your answer. Asking early is good.. It saved you time, effort, and heartache. You didn't push him away. He wants something easy,simple and non-committal. Let him go and have some NSA fun with a like-minded person.
