How Do I Get Over A Broken Heart?

You need to put distance between the two of you.. Seeing him every day is not going to help, in fact, it will just make your life more miserable as time goes on. I'd tell him to get a new job, that he needs to transfer. Maybe he will, but probably not.. in which case, you need to find another job. Have nothing to do with him. Tell him to never talk to you again, or you will have to have a word with his wife and/or your boss - this ought to keep him away.

He's treated you terribly. He's a liar. If you can't leave the job right now, then start making plans - get out of there.

Secondly, you CAN get over this.. never focus on a problem/bad situation Always focus on the SOLUTION to the problem/bad situation. Don't beat yourself up over this - beating yourself up solves nothing, fixes nothing, changes nothing - it is a complete and utter waste of your time and energy - what you think about is a CHOICE.. DECIDE you will no longer think about him. Consider this a learning experience. We almost always learn things the hard way.. Move on. Everytime he comes to mind, tell yourself 'no. I won't do this." and then change your focus to something positive and self - affirming. "I will find someone who loves me, and is honest". And then make this a goal - join a gym, get out there and meet others.. just continue to shut down thoughts about him, and replace them with positive thoughts - your brain is a TOOL, your emotions are never meant to run/ruin your life. Set goals.. goals take your thoughts INTO the future (when the goal is realized) and keep us from always looking in the rearview mirror.. when you are always looking to the past, or to past disappointments and failures, you don't move forward, you get 'stuck' in the past (I've got years of experience with this) - you need to think to the future, and move towards that future. This gets you unstuck. Every step you take towards a goal gives you hope, renews your enthusiasm for life, give you new energy.. past mistakes are for one reason - to learn from. Don't dwell on them, keep moving forward where your new life is waiting for you.

If you hung out, on and off, for a year.. talking a lot, he's pretty deceptive and sneaky and intentionally selfish. I don't believe for a moment he "felt really bad"! He led you on and seduced you for 11 months without ever telling you he was married! Honey... get over him by taking an honest look at who he is. You were conned. If he were honest about who he is ... you'd not have "eventually fallen in love with him". He's a con. I get you have to work together but now you know he is NOT a man you'd fall in love with. He's not.

Of course you are upset at being set up, seduced and conned!

He used you. Oldest story in the book. He's a total cad.

He could have told you a year ago that he was married, but didn't. He could have told you when he saw you were falling for him, but didn't. Why not? Because it suited him to have you as his bit on the side. He's a man for whom relationships are all about HIM, not you.

It's kind of a tough break that you work together, but it's a valuable life lesson: don't **** where you eat. See if you can get a transfer to a different office or department, if not, start looking for another job. Try to leave the current job on good terms - you'll probably need some kind of reference - and go directly into the new one. And delete that man's number from your phone, unfriend him, do whatever you need to do to stop yourself seeing what he's up to. Chances are he's already working on your replacement for a bit on the side - I'm sorry, but there it is. When you're not seeing him so much, find a gym or exercise group and work on your fitness. You might enjoy boxing or Krav Maga.

I can't. It's impossible. Some things are sad and hard to get over.