My dad admitted he hated me on fathers day?

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My family and I all went out for Father’s Day. Everything went well and I had a decent time. When we got home from eating, I gave him his gift which was a card saying how he’s a great father signed by my brothers and I. I had also bought him a pocket knife that was gold like he wanted. He read the card and hugged me but said “out of all of my boys, I've always hated you the most. You were a little c•unt, but now you’ve graduated high school and become a man I’m proud of.” He had a few drinks already and was a bit drunk but I can tell he meant it. My mom was very angry with him and my older brother was so confused but I don’t know. I just wonder if I should care about my father? My father and I never had the best relationship.

Honestly, I was hoping maybe It could get better before I leave. I’m going to be going out of state for college this august, I’m 18. I guess my older brother brother and my little brother and my mom will have to deal with his crap a lot more than me now. I’ll still see them on vacation but I don’t know what to think? Should I care? I guess I’ll leave knowing I’m the most hated so maybe that’s a good thing?

capitalgentleman · Answer

He also said he was proud of you.  Despite his misgivings, you have turned out all right, and he is telling you this.  It's a good thing!

Anonymous · Answer

you need to have alone time with dad and tell him since he thinks you are his *****, then bend over and let him go at it til he splooges in you

Janet · Answer

He has told you he USED to hate you .. but you have changed and he is now PROUD of you.
Guess you haven't grown up as much as he thinks you have.
It's not like he said he STILL hates you.

Of COURSE you care about your father.
Not for him, but for your own well-being and happiness.
Psychologists tell us that the more we focus on ourselves, the more neurotic and unhappy we will be.  So don't get all entangled on your hurt.
And they also us that those who score the happiest on happiness tests are those who report sharing with and caring about others .. and NOT just those who care about.

Learn the joy of caring for someone, even if you think they don't deserve it.
He is your father, and he kept you alive through your infancy and childhood.

Gaia’s Garden · Answer

Yeah, just write him off. Keep in contact with the rest of your family.

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My dad admitted he hated me on fathers day?

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