Bisexuality in a long term relationship?

You agreed to be monogamous. Go whine somewhere else.

edit: Seriously, how old are you?

One of the many reasons I'll never date a slut

Talk to your boyfriend about this and be very open with how you feel. But don't go behind his back.

better get it out in the open now before you do something stupid and ruin a 4 year relationship.

You're in a monogamous relationship that you say you value. People in monogamous relationships don't have sex with others outside the relationship. Period.

That's not to say they don't MISS having sex with other people - or that they don't WANT to have sex with other people. In nearly ALL cases, they DO miss sex with other people and DO want it. But they don't HAVE it.

Instead, they use a little-known spiritual technique from the mystic east called "Self-Control". Now, I know this is going to sound CRAZY, but this technique teaches us that we don't have to feel compelled to act on every little appetite or want that comes into our heads. REALLY! Sure it's bizarre, but it turns out to be TRUE! I swear! You just say to yourself "Yeah, I would really like to do that, but it wouldn't be good for me in the end, so I'm just NOT going to do it - all by myself, by just CHOOSING not to."

There IS a drawback - I won't lie to you on this - this technique does NOT stop the wanting to have sex with other people. You still have THAT going on. So it's far from perfect! You end up lots of times having to, like, actually use Self-Control over and over...like almost every day...because that appetite for sex with other people just keeps coming back. But, still - with a little Self-Control session each day, you end up trading-in all that sex with other people in order to KEEP the guy that is your "everything".

Try it! It works! (It's also good for other things, like losing weight, living within your means, getting ahead at your job, avoiding drug addiction, and SO much more!!)

Bisexuality doesn't mean you need to be with one person of each sex. It means you are attracted to both sexes.

Anytime a person chooses one person (either sex) they will miss out on things other people could give you. If your relationship is monogamous than that is the way you have commited it to be.

What you might want to consider is not being monogamous. You can do non-monagamous relationship in many ways, but the successful ones are done honestly and openly.

There is a book called the Ethical Slut and while I hate the title it has lots of good ideas. The two of you need to establish ground rules. They will be unique to you too. I have been in a non-monagamous relationship for 20 years. Our rules are pretty simple. Some aren't really relevant anymore.

Always be honest

Practice safe sex

Keep informed of others partners

All partners are aware of each other,

Communicate, communicate, communicate

We have a budget for the costs of our relationship as he is married and pays for most everything (budget determined by him and his wife)

Some rules you might consider (or the opposite of)

He must meet and approve of your partners (and you his)

You can have sex with only other women

You can only have sex with married women (disease less likely)

Phone calls only between 9 and 5 or whatever

Overnights always at their home (or yours or a hotel)

No one with children (or small children)

Testing for STDs required periodically

It may sound weird t have rules, but it keeps everyone on the same page and reduces conflict due to misunderstandings

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