I'm 19 years old, about to be 20 in April. My wife is 18, turning 19 in January. We dated for over a year, got engaged in April this year.?

I got married when both my wife and I were 18. We were FWB's during our last year in high school and although we were careful, she got pregnant anyway. 99% successful birth control is not 100% successful, after all.

Neither one of us believed in abortion so we decided to put the interests of the unborn child first, and the love we both had for that baby made up for the lack of true love we felt for each other. It wasn't easy but it was worthwhile. At a later point in our lives, we amicably split up...actually falling back into an FWB relationship.

My personal feeling is there is not necessarily a "right" way to do things, although I think there are several wrong ways. You have the opportunity here to avoid several of the wrong ways. If you are already unhappy in this relationship, then I strongly encourage you to NOT have children. And take care of the birth control yourself. If she is yakking about wanting kids while you do not, then it is common sense to NOT trust her to handle the birth control. Also, avoid any major legal or economic entanglements, such as buying a house, or even going into debt to buy a car. Even avoid getting any pets or expensive household items.

But don't yet give up. You're young. I feel your sense of being trapped and frustrated. You obviously got married too soon, before you knew each other well enough. Get some counseling. Try to get to know each other now, and find out if you CAN make a go of it. But if after another period of six to 12 months it's obvious that you aren't getting anywhere, then make a mature decision to break up. Allowing yourself the idea of a termination date even after working on things, will help relieve you from some of that trapped feeling.

If you do break up and divorce, remain civil with each other; no point in being enemies. Move on. And who knows? Maybe in 10years you'll find yourselves moving back.

Good luck figuring it out.

No, you're wrong.

Didn't know her very well for dating a year. In this case it might be well to cut your losses and run. She sounds to9 irresponsible and she certainly does not love you. Get an annulment.

I'm fairly sure someone told you at the time that you were too young to get married. This is why we tell people this. It would be nice if you gave talks at high schools telling them not to get committed too you. If you haven't had children yet, then I agree that this is the time to get out of this relationship and start again.

I know one couple who met in high school, but they didn't get married until they were out of college. They are very happy.

Move to Iran. Leave your wife here.

Before you have children and before you buy any thing like a car or a house together. Get a separation and a divorce.

Get divorced before she becomes pregnant.

Woa son...back up a minute. you dated a minor. she can acuse you or rape now if she is a liberal. rushing into a marriage is always a mistake. next time stay engaged and live together or break up. Your instincts are tellimg you to run!

You need to be a man and put your foot down. lay down the law.

Yell at her, you need to communicate more. get her lazy butt to work and clean. get a job too.

Dont have any more kids. Pray to God also. I almost jumped into marriages. stop letting her spend too.

marriage is about TEAM....TEAM....

She needs to work and help clean. You too.

why are you asking in politics?

she should be giving you massages, cooking, cleaning, making you feel good, etc, buying you stuff instead. get her barefoot in the kitchen and pregnant. be a man. You need to train her.