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Ace asked in HealthMental Health · 2 years ago

Feel like I'm being used but don't wanna let my parents down?

I start community college in a few weeks and missed my recent semester cause since I was in high school I cared for my little brother while my parents worked. now mind you that at the time that I did I had recently gotten out of a mental hospital so I was free all day since I was getting homeschooled where a teacher would come over and do work with me. I was 16 then but when I did go back to school I didnt have to take on that responsibility and it was refreshing because I struggled with it,I was going through a lot and I had to take on basically having a child.I graduated and my plans for college were to do community.everything was fine until I decided that I wanted to do AM classes but my parents were expecting me to babysit my brother again..we had this huge disagreement and I was left with no choice but to miss my semester cause I had no way to get to school,they refused to help me.They agreed that they wouldn't put me through this again that whole deal with who would watch him would be taken care of. a few days ago they asked me how I scheduled I scheduled my classes,I said im doing mornings so I have time for a sport in the afternoons and all hell broke loose they starting saying I can't do that dont i love mybrother I have to watch him that thats why im getting a car and it just really put me down because ive been watching him for months now, no human contact whatsoever.I have been planning for months on what I'll be doing during my day,what should I do? im 18

Update:

I struggle with depression and anxiety

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  • justin
    Lv 6
    2 years ago

    U are being oppressed but god told me that those who are oppressed are rewarded excessively. Most suffering he will reimbuirse u 100 times over but for his it is much much more.

  • 2 years ago

    Hi! I really wanna help but I’m no therapist all I can say is do what’s best for you I know that seems selfish and sometimes you can feel a little guilty but if you want to be independent one day you can’t have people depending on you like that cause they can get used to, that doesn’t mean you don’t love your family. Idk, do what you will regret less don’t know if it helped but that’s just my opinion :)

  • Rick
    Lv 7
    2 years ago

    He's not your child so you don't own the responsibility of looking after him. Your job is to study and get a career and they need to accept this.

    Not taking care of your brother has nothing to do with not loving him. That's manipulation and it's unfair and wrong to do to you.

    You are being used in a big way. Feeling guilty about letting them down is what you need to change. Why? Because it's working very well for them and not at all well for you.

    Tell them this and it's okay to not do what they expect you to do. Again, he's not your child and not your responsibility. They need to make arrangements for someone else to care for him so you can live your life and move your career forward.

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