How do I get a boy to stop asking me out?

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We're in the eighth grade. This boy asked me out on the first day. I told him that I wanted to get to know him before I gave him an answer. He nodded, and throughout the day, we would have two very short conversations that both ended in him randomly going to talk to his friends without so much as a, "'Later."
He proceeded to text me that night about his guitar for, like, three texts, and then he asked me for an answer the next day. I said no.

Since then, he's been asking me out once every two to three weeks, and I've kept saying no. He's done it again recently, and I'm incredibly fed up with it. I'm not trying to bash this kid, but I'm legitimately not interested in him. He asks out other girls directly after I turn him down, so I'm pretty sure he doesn't even like me and that he just wants the bragging rights that come with having a girlfriend.
I'm fine with being his friend, but I have absolutely no romantic interest in him. How do I get him to stop asking me out?

tony · Accepted Answer

All you have to do is be firm, polite..Be honest. Don't waste time beating around the bush. Just tell him that you know he likes you, and that you're just not interested in him in that way. Tell him you wish it was different and know that it puts you in an uncomfortable place, but that you just don't see him as more than a friend.Though it sounds harsh, the most important thing is to not give him hope. If he thinks there's even a chance that you'll like him later, he'll keep waiting for it to happen.
Remember that being firm doesn't mean that you have to be cruel. You don't have to say that there's a 0% chance that you'll ever get together, or that there's no way you'd ever go out with him. You will essentially be saying this -- but in a nice way.
Don't apologize. Though the situation is uncomfortable, and you feel bad for him, you can't help how you feel.

Carolynn M · Answer

i wonder how someone in 8th grade can take you out on a date. He obviously doesnt drive.

Daniel · Answer

Tell him your a carpet mucher

K · Answer

You HAVE to be brutally blunt with him, Tell him "no means no" and that you're not interested in him whatsoever. Make sure he knows that if he doesn't leave you alone, you'll tell the principal he's harassing you. This is considered sexual harassment and is grounds for suspension.

Lots of young guys are stupid and think if they keep asking, you'll eventually give in and say "yes". That's why he won't take the hint lol.

ez2tock2 · Answer

If you really want him to STOP, you say Yes and be the WORSE date ever.

When girls I'm NOT interested in make a play for me, I know how scary it is to try, for fear of rejection.  I say Yes to them, because I have experience with 
REJECTION.  On the date, I talk to them about NOT wanting a relationship 
because there are 1000's of other girl I want to ask out.  
Once they have spent time with IT IS EASY TO DISCOURAGE THEM.

You can do the same thing.  He may find out, you'd be a better friend for him, than a GF.

He can have BRAGGING RIGHTS... You Still WIN.

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