How do I get my mom to change?

Why should she change? THere's no need for her to change and coddle you and give you hand outs.

THey should not be paying for your school at all. Since you want to go YOU need to pay for it all.

They should not pay for the rental either. YOU should be paying for it

Not your moeny. You need to stop wanting her to spend her money on you or spend it like a loonly. If she doesn't want to waste the money then tough

Your Mom is absolutely correct about the scholarship thing. If you're going off to college, then you're old enough to be working. Don't expect your parents to pay for your college education, no matter how rich they may be. My Dad's coworker and his wife both earn a huge amount, and yet, did not pay a single penny for their daughter's college education. You know why? Because she worked hard and put in her own effort to be qualified for scholarships. Her rich parents could definitely afford to pay for her education, but they wanted her to work hard in life. You won't learn the value of money and how to use money if you don't become responsible for your own expenses. Your parents won't always be your piggy bank. No matter how rich your parents are, you should stop feeling entitled and start taking on responsibilities. One of my friend's parents are rich, yet my friend has a part time job and helps to pay their home mortgage, buy groceries, and buy her own luxuries (like a camera, laptop, phone, etc.). She takes responsibility and helps out in the family. Your Mom isn't asking you to do that. She's asking that you learn to start being an adult, a mature individual. For someone who grew up with so much financial struggle, she understands the value of every penny. No matter how much richer she gets, she will continue being frugal, continue looking for the cheapest item, and continue saving every penny she can. Small price differences and savings add up. It might seem like you only saves $5 that day, but over you lifetime, think about how much you will have saved. I agree that being too frugal is not necessary and it can become annyoing for you, but your Mom has seen a much different life than you have. I can understand your annoyance because my parents and grandparents are like that too. But you know what you can? You can pay for your grad school fee on your own or get a scholarship and make your parents feel somewhat proud. Get a good job after you graduate and spend money on your parents, even if they can afford it themselves. Your Mom will ask you why you spent money on her and tell you not to because she will care about your money, but it will be your duty to care of her when it's your time. Your parents raised you and took care of you and when they grow old, it will be your duty to take care of them. I can't believe your parents paid your entire college fee. I would've told my kids to pay their own college fees because then they wouldn't end up feeling entitled like you are. I think it's time for you to start appreciating your parents, evaluate yourself, and grow up a little.

It's not your money, you didn't earn it... so when you start earning six figures you can spend it all at once, if you want. It's up to you.

I think I know what's happening here, because it's similar to what happened in my family. The only difference is that both my parents are well off.

They had 5 kids and all of us had the same rules. They would provide full financial support through college. Once we graduated, all assistance stopped completely. We were allowed to live at home the summer we graduated if we needed to (I didn't), but after that we were on our own.

It was the perfect way to do this, because at some point, all of us have to learn how to be independent. My college roomie and I went to grad school halfway across the country. We were so broke we had to share a 1 bedroom. But we had a blast. She grew up poor, but for me, it was the 1st time in my life I had to count every penny. We saved enough to spend the summer in Greece, and I felt so accomplished that every cent for that trip came through my own efforts.

Bottom line: You aren't going to change your mom on the bigger issue, because she knows she's right. If her meddling in your life is becoming a pain, you're plenty old enough to strike out on your own. That might help you understand why it's sometimes important to take the higher paying internship.

you probably cant, sonnetinnes people are so used to not being able to afford stuff that they act that way even later when they can

You can’t. You’re trying to break a habit that they’ve had their entire life.

You can't get her to change.

You're an adult. Move out and make your own way in life.

Stop expecting your parents to pay for YOUR life.

You sound like you think you're entitled. You aren't.