How do I deal with having wealthy friends?

I think the most important thing to do is not to make an issue of it. If you can act all nonchalant about wealth, money etc. then you will be a far more appealing person to be around. Remember, these people associate with you because they like you for who you are, not because of your bank account. Having class has absolutely nothing to do with bank accounts, rather it is attained through treating people with respect, being fun to be around and presenting yourself nicely.

If they ever judge you on how much you and your husband make then they are not worth associating with. Another thing to take into account is that these people may associate with other who are more wealthy than them. Hence, there is every chance that they would hate to be judged if the roles were reversed and therefore are mindful of this. I really hope that this helps :)

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Guidance on socializing people who are significantly wealthier than oneself is found in "Miss Manners' Guide to Excruciatingly Correct Behavior." MM tells us that if we go to a dinner party at a friend's home and find ourselves opulently entertained with costly foods and other luxuries, we do NOT owe these a dinner party in an equally lavish style. What we owe these people is to entertain them in our own style, not in their style. We can pay our social debt by inviting them to a back yard BBQ, to a family bowling & pizza outing, to a spaghetti dinner, to a picnic.

Just like gift giving, how much to spend is determined by your own level of wealth, not the wealth of the recipient.

You have a good attitude about it so don't worry. If you feel you cannot afford a particular restaurant or if they want to go to a restaurant with you two too often, just tell them that you have set a limit for restaurant spending each month and you have already reached your limit, or every three months - whatever you decide you can afford.

This is very awkward. We dealt with this with my niece in college. Her roommate was well off and wanted to always go shopping, always out the eat.

You just have to honest with them. if they are good friends, they will understand and THEY will be embarrassed for not thinking about it.